Saturday, October 10, 2009

Letting go and dealing with what we have been given

I have heard this story before but I think it is one that can be retold, in order to help us remember that there are a lot of things in life that we do not like or that bother us. Understanding what they are and how to deal with them or even how to let go of them is ....the hard part.

I know for myself that some times I just get into to certain habits, habits of how I think about something. When I realize how much it bothers me then I know I need to change something. But old habits are hard to break. I used to be a PLEASER, even at the cost of my emotional or physical self....I wanted to make everyone happy. I did not want someone to be disappointed in me. For some reason, I thought I had to do everything right for every person. It was a big day for me to realize that I CAN'T AND WILL NEVER MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY! I will disappoint people, let them down and even though I don't do it on purpose, I realized... that is life and we are all human. We will make mistakes. Learning how to forgive myself was huge. I used to punish myself for a long time whenever I made a mistake or disappointed someone. I just have to do the best I can and make the best with what I have been given in life. That was a life turning point for me. Too bad it took me over 40 years to figure that out! :) 

I guess we are all  still learning huh? So today, I will try to remember the oyster story and how he took what life gave him and made something worthwhile out of it. Have a great day and remember just do the best you can but always be willing to let go of the old you and old habits for something better!




Author Unknown

There once was an oyster
Whose story I tell,
Who found that some sand
Had gotten into his shell.
It was only a grain,
But it gave him great pain,
For oysters have feelings
Although they're so plain.
Now, did he berate
The harsh workings of fate
That had brought him
To such a deplorable state?
Did he curse at the government,
Cry for election,
And claim that the sea should
Have given him protection?
"No," he said to himself
As he lay on a shell,
Since I cannot remove it,
I shall try to improve it.
Now the years have rolled around,
As the years always do,
And he came to his ultimate destiny ...Stew!
And the small grain of sand
That had bothered him so
Was a beautiful pearl
All richly aglow.
Now the tale has a moral:
For isn't it grand
What an oyster can do
With a morsel of sand?
What couldn't we do
If we'd only begin
With some of the things
That get under our skin.


"Letting go of your past and memories are also extremely hard. Even though old memories can be tormenting, yet you might hold on to the past and refuse to move forward. However, by refusing to let go of the painful past, it'll serve as a roadblock to love."

"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward."   ~  Unknown


"Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be."  ~ Unknown

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