Showing posts with label child abuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label child abuse. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Child Abuse: A Community Matter

Today I read  an article about Child Abuse, I can't post all of it but will give you the link which I really hope you will take the time to read and watch, here it is...   http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865563397/Child-abuse-A-community-matter.html?pg=1

I will share just a couple of powerful points that they make. I know this isn't the most motivational post but...being a child of incest myself, and now a Survivor! I know that it is everyone's business to watch out for and protect children. If we are aware and listen to our gut feelings, and then have the courage to ACT upon that...then there would be less and less children abused each day. Oh how I wish someone would have done that for me! "Remember Knowledge is Power", so get educated on it such as reading this article and then be ready to act.

"The community can play a huge role in being eyes and ears and protectors of children if they know what to look for and if they're then willing to make the call," Tracey Tabet, the Children's Justice Center Program Director for the state of Utah, told the Deseret News. "It's not enough just to know what to look for, you have to be willing to act."
"Child abuse is happening at epidemic proportions,"  "It is associated with adverse health and mental health outcomes in children and families, with impacts that can last a lifetime. We must position ourselves to prevent it."
Signs
"People need to pull their heads out of the sand, wake up and realize that everybody is impacted by child abuse"
"The first step in stopping abuse and neglect is recognizing early signs. "A closer look at the situation may be warranted when these signs appear repeatedly or in combination."
Sudden changes in behavior or school performance, difficulty concentrating and arriving early to school or other activities or staying late, with a reluctance to go home, can be signs of abuse

Unexplained burns, bites, bruises or broken bones can be indications of physical abuse. Frequent absence from school, insufficient clothing for the weather, abuse of alcohol or other drugs or a lack of needed medical or dental care, immunizations or glasses can be signs of neglect. Difficulty walking or sitting, a refusal to change for gym or participate in physical activities or a demonstration of bizarre, sophisticated or unusual sexual knowledge or behavior can be signs of sexual abuse.

Responding
The first line of defense is to contact your local child protective services agency or police department, Hmurovich told the Deseret News. "It can be difficult to make that call for fear of getting a relative in trouble, but the interest of the child should always take precedence."
These reports can be anonymous but require specific information, such as the who, what happened and when.
Hmurovich suggests notifying another responsible adult, such as a minister, a school teacher, a close relative, even a next door neighbor.

Community awareness
"We cannot put the responsibility on children to protect themselves, for that's not their burden to bear"
"The community can play a huge role in being the eyes and ears and protectors of children if they know what to look for and if they're willing to make the call,"

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Be you own hero!

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I personally learned this concept right after Amy was born and I realized in order to protect her that I was going to have to brake the generations of abuse that was in my family. As soon as she was placed in my arms, I knew beyond a shadow of doubt that I needed to protect her at all costs. However that was going to take great faith and courage on my part, I knew that it wouldn’t be an easy thing to do, I feared  how my family would take it. But the truth was, this abuse had been going on for generations and it had to be stopped. I realized that I had to fight this battle no matter what, no one else was going to do that.

The night that I told my parents, it was awful, all I could remember was the feeling of somehow is still must have been my fault. After my parents had left, I begin to doubt my ability to continue to  go through with this tough decision…I seemed to sense the gravity of what I was starting to do, and truly felt like I wasn’t strong enough to do so. Incest is like a weed, if  you decide to stop it ( or pull it up ) you have NO IDEA how many roots it has, or have far they have reached. So that is what makes it so hard, you have no idea how big the battle will be or how many years you will have to keep fighting.

For the first time in my life, I begged my Heavenly Father to let me die ( I was not thinking of suicide, I just wanted Him to take me right then and there) I told Him this was much bigger than me, I didn’t feel I could go through it. My parents reaction was one of blame on me, and how could I go on and tell the rest of the family. That night after my prayers I felt a sense of peace and in my heart I  felt like I could hear my Heavenly Father tell me  that it was not time for me to come home, and that I could and needed  be strong enough to break this silence of incest. He told me that there we generations counting on me, that there were other women who needed to see my example, and that my future children as well as Amy, needed a Mom who had great faith and courage. He then  promised me I could come home when my mission was over and that HE would hold me and protect me forever.

I can’t even explain the feeling I had after that connection, I knew this was my battle and no one else was going to fight it. I knew what the God expected of me, and I knew that no matter how hard it might be, that I was not alone in this fight.

That was one of the toughest things I ever did in all my life, battling cancer took a close second. But even though it was a long hard battle, there was a big separation in our family because of it, and to some…I was still the bad guy.  I can honestly say… I know that I did what God needed me to do, and my kids ( the next generation ) were protected and that was… worth any of it!  I encourage anyone who is being abused or knows of abuse…to stand up and fight it with everything you have. Ask for help, don’t be afraid. Abuse is wrong, it was 40 some years ago when I was a little girl, and it is still wrong today!

Good night dear friends!

 

Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.  ~ Herbert Ward

The consequences of your denial will be with you for a lifetime and will be passed down to the next generations. Break your Silence on Abuse!   ~ Patty Rase Hopson

The only reason why child abuse is alive today, is because we as adults fail our children when we fail to listen to them. Listen to a child today!   ~  Heather McClane