Showing posts with label age. Show all posts
Showing posts with label age. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Is it hot in here?

When the kids were little, I remember feeling just like this photo! :)
I wondered if I would ever survive it, being up all night, sick babies, chicken pox, potty training, the busing kids back and forth from
activities, the homework, the volunteering and on and on.

Hilarious
Now I am getting ready to turn 55 in a few days, and I am struggling with a new stage of life.
Just after 6 months of being really sick, ending with a abscessed tooth and having to have it out...I began to start having Hot Flashes!
Now I have watched many of my friends go through Menopause and I have heard all the horror stories about it. I even remember how my own Mother handled it, so it really wasn't something I was looking forward to... but knew it would eventually happen some day. Why it had to happen when it did is just bad luck I guess. My grandmother used to always say "If it weren't for bad luck, you won't have any luck at all!" Funny Grandma, but maybe that is true?
Anyway, I am not trying to complain except that because of the Hot Flashes at night, I am waking up about every 2 hours trying to cool off. And not sleeping soundly is wiping me out. I used to never sleep ever since I was a kid. But about 3 years ago I started working on getting good sleep, and when I started sleeping 8 hours a night, that is when I really saw my health improve. So I hope and pray that I get figure this out soon and get some solid sleep.I am beat!
Some of you are probably still laughing, because you have already been there and done that. Well if this is my right of passage, please be patient with me.
It's late...tomorrow is a big day at work. I start teaching the 12 Days of Christmas! I can't wait, it is my favorite time of the year!
Good night dear friends!
P.S.
I heard a comedian once say to the men in the audience. "The way you can know the difference if your wife is going through PMS or Menopause is...a wife going through PMS could kill you. But the wife who is going through Menopause, will cause you to want to kill yourself!"

 Mine as well laugh since I can't change it! :)

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

It's your Birthday!

Today is Jeff's Birthday! I can't believe that we have been able to share this many birthdays together, what a blessing! I know that we are each getting older, but I still remember the first date we ever went on June 9th 1978. ( I know you can close your mouth now, it sorta fell open when you read how many years ago that was ). Anyway on our way home from the date, Jeff looked over at me and asked me how old I was. I hesitated and then said "Well, I will be 18 in about a month from now". I thought he was going to wreck the car, he had just turned 21 years old and he couldn't believe I was only 18. He kept saying it over and over " you are only 18!" Like he was doing something illegal! 3 years at that time seemed like a huge age difference. Funny how things look different throughout the years!
One of the best things Jeff and I have going for us ...is our weird sense of humor. It has pulled us through a lot of hard times and bad times. I thought of that sense of humor when I saw the cartoon below...

Happy Birthday Jeff, I love you more than words can say!
Thanks to all of you, who remembered Jeff's birthday...it made him feel special!
Good night dear friends1



Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Life's lessons!

Now you would think at my age, that I would have figured out most things by now...but not true. Just recently I spent time with a person who makes fun of me a lot, and criticizes me a lot. Many times they are in a joking way, but I realized this week that when I am with this person ...that I always feel bad or catch myself apologizing for things; things that I shouldn't apologize for. Now I understand that we don't have to be friends with everyone. Still it hurts when you are trying so hard to be friends and spend the time with them, and you realize it is not good for you. It isn't healthy to let someone treat you that way... and it isn't a true friend IF they do. These are all the things I have taught my kids for years. Tonight I finally realized that I need to remember these quotes and apply them to my life! I think this is called WISDOM... but sometimes it hurts!
Good night dear friends!
quotes about people who try to control you - Google SearchThe sadest truth about this quote is that some of the people who drain you are family...you never got the choice to pick them.quote about people

Monday, September 24, 2012

I should have kept it!

I smile when I saw a class being taught on HOW TO WEAR YOUR SCARFS, there seemed to be a ton of ways to tie them. When I was a teenager, I remember going to Anderson Newcomes store with my Mom. Next to the make up counter was a lady demonstrating how to wear and tie your scarfs. I was so excited and begged my Mom to get me a couple of them. Which she did ( probably just to stop the begging ) of course I wouldn't want to admit this to my kids. But I had for years the handouts that I got in that class and over the years, you seldom would see me without a scarf.
I really should have kept the scarfs, the pattern and colors would have been right back in style now! I feel that way about quite a few items that I wore in my younger days.
As a young Mom, my advice to you would be... keep as much stuff as you can because...some day it will come back in style and you won't have to buy it again! But really, who has that much storage space that they can do that? But still , I smile when I see things that I had back in the day, and now they are vintage and cool once again! Who knew? ( I think that means I am getting older! )
 Here is a photo of me and my cute nephew getting our scarfs on for the Western Themed party we went to! Yes, I still love scarfs!
Good night dear friends!

"It is easily overlooked that what is now called vintage was once brand new." ~Tony Visconti
      “Fashions fade, style is eternal.” ~ Yves Saint Lauren

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Time and Season

I have heard all my life, that there is a Time and Season for everything. I now know that is sooooooooo true! There was a time when my kids were all little and I wondered how in the world, I would survive Motherhood with such a big family? Now here I sit tonight with my heart hurting again... but mostly for good reasons.
Our oldest son Bradley had his birthday today and also moved to Boston for his new job. Now that is a good thing but...it is a lot further away and so trips there won't be too easy, that is hard on my heart.We are so excited for this new adventure for them but still Boston, that is a LONG ways away. I am so proud of him, he has grown up to be an incredible Husband, Father and Artist! It thrills me to know that he will be doing something every day that he loves...that is important, that is rare and a very big blessing! I know, because that is what I have been able to do for the last 30 years of being a Stay Home Mom; and now I am working at Quilt Shop and love it too! 
So I am grateful for his birthday that he is seeing some wonderful things happen with his job and talents, as well as starting a new adventure with his little family. 
I baked a pie in Brad's honor today. Jeff and Lee, just kept singing Happy Birthday to Brad, each time they ate another piece! :) Not sure that was the way Brad would have had it work!
 My heart also aches for my Angie girl. She starts first grade tomorrow, which means she will be in school all day and we won't have nearly the time that we used to have together. So yesterday, she had her Monthly Sleep Over at Nana and Poppa's house and we went to Anachortes Beach, to enjoy the last day of summer that we could enjoy with her and with Lauren. But it was a gorgeous day and once again, we were so thankful that we live in the Great Northwest!
 

Last but not least...
My heart is hurting because Lauren leaves tomorrow, to go back to college. It was sooooooooo fun having another girl in the house again, it was so great being with her. We all miss her terribly. It is hard to have your family grow up and move away. I would love to have everyone live close enough to get together at least every few months. I know that there are many parents and grandparents who are reading this right now and probably saying " Lynn, stop your whinning, at least some of your kids are close and some of them get to visit every now and then!"
 
You are right, I am blessed... I really think our whole family is blessed, because we love each other so much. This was my dream, to have a big family and have everyone close and connected! This is prove that DREAMS REALLY DO COME TRUE! I now just pray that each one of them will be safe in their new adventures!
Good night dear friends!

" In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don't try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present. "  ~Lao Tzu

"I remember my mother's prayers and they have always followed me.  They have clung to me all my life."  ~Abraham Lincoln





Saturday, August 18, 2012

Age is Just a Number!

 I love this story, kids are such heros to me! They believe in themselves, they keep trying and they believe in miracles. Something we should all try to remember more often!
Good night dear friends!

The 17-Year-Old Pilot
Kimberly Anyadike

When Kimberly Anyadike was little, her heroes were superheroes. "I'd see Superman or Wonder Woman flying on TV and think, 'That's so cool!'" she says. "My brother and sister and I would tie towels around our necks for capes and run around the house jumping off the couches and banisters. Every year I would ask Santa for a jet pack." In an after-school program at Tomorrow's Aeronautical Museum in Compton, California, the 12-year-old took a spin in a single-engine Cessna 172. Midflight, she was thrilled when the instructor handed her the controls. "Afterward my mom asked if I wanted to take flying lessons, and I said, 'Yes!'"



Three years later, in 2009, Anyadike became the youngest African-American female in history to pilot a round-trip, coast-to-coast flight. (Her chaperone for all 7,000 miles was Major Levi Thornhill, one of the legendary Tuskegee Airmen, the African-American pilots whose heroism in World War II inspired Anyadike's record-setting journey.) "Flying over Texas was the most fun because there were a lot of summer rainstorms," Anyadike says. "I wasn't scared—I'm never scared. I just focus. And before every flight, I pray."

Anyadike plans to become a cardiovascular surgeon after college, but for now the big goal is earning a couple of licenses this summer—pilot's and driver's. "When I'm flying, I'm in control. I trust myself," she says. "The sound of the engine, the movement of the propeller—it's like gravity gets suspended. It's as if you're closer to heaven." Or to being a superhero. —Marcia Desanctis
Watch her fly HERE:   http://wn.com/15_year_old_aviator,_kimberly_anyadike,_makes_her_historic_transcontinental_flight


Saturday, May 5, 2012

Out of Balance...once again!

   One would think that at the ripe old age of 52.5, that I would be a bit wiser than when I was young. I used to remember my Mom telling me to slow down and try to balance things a bit better, so that I wasn't so stressed or tired. Why is it when you think you are young, you think you are invincible and don't take that advice? But what is more upsetting I still haven't figured it out at my age!!!!
   I know, I am a slow learner. I have a bit too much on my plate right now, and my body is starting to send me warning signs that it doesn't like it! It is hard to believe that just a couple of years ago, when I was still trying to heal from the treatments of my cancer, I literally begged my Heavenly Father to let me get strong and healthy enough some day to be able to serve Him, my family and others.
   Now I am sure He is just shaking His head that I have already gotten out of Balance ....once again, in such a short period of time! So I need to do some prioritizing, it is so hard when you want to do sooooooooo many things. But I do know my body well enough, that if I don't slow down soon, it will completely STOP me and I won't have any other options.
   Well, I just thought you should know that wisdom is suppose to come with age... but in some cases ( special  cases ), it might take a bit longer. :) Maybe I need to get new glasses, ones that will help me see my priorities better!
Good night dear friends!

"Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony."


"Problems arise in that one has to find a balance between what people need from you and what you need for yourself."   Jessye Norman
 
"When our life is out of balance we have stress! Balance in your life does bring less stress to your life!"

Friday, December 30, 2011

How did I ever do this with 4 children?

Today I flew to Utah, as I was seated in the planes and watched the people get on with their little children, I wondered how in the world I did it with 4 children when we flew from Seattle to West Virginia ( back in the day )? I don’t really remember very often having any problems with the kids. They each had their little back packs that were filled with little treasures and snacks. They were so excited to see their Grandparents, that they were really good the whole 6 hour flight. Still I wonder now, how in the world I did it. No wonder my back hurts so much! Smile

As I tried to get my luggage off the carrousel and realized that I will pay for that for days to come (with my back), I realize that I am getting older and not quite as strong as I use to be. Traveling is much harder than it used to be years ago, that is for sure. Oh well, I am here and so hopefully my back with rest, and I will get a chance to spend some time with my family and friends while Jeff takes the kids on to Idaho and off to college.

This is the beginning of our Empty Nesters adventure. It is exciting, it’s a bit sad, it’s hard to believe that time has gone by so fast. So I guess we should say…let the adventure begin! The only thing that would make this trip better was if all the rest of the kids and grandkids were here!

Need to head to bed, good night dear friends.

“The great thing about getting older is that you don't lose all the other ages you've been. “   ~ Madeleine L'Engle

“To keep the heart unwrinkled, to be hopeful, kindly, cheerful, reverent - that is to triumph over old age.”     ~Thomas Bailey Aldrich

“You can't hide your true colors as you approach the autumn of your life.”    ~ Author Unknown

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

This is a quiz!

I can’t remember where I read this…sorry! It was from an elderly person, sharing what they had learned about life and people. I thought it was interesting, I also thought how I act in all four of those situations!

Good night dear friends!

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he she handles four things:

…a rainy day

…the elderly,

…lost luggage,

and

…tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a 'life.' I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands.You need to be able to throw something back sometimes. I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you.But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I've learned that I still have a lot to learn. 

 

“Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first, the lesson afterward. “   ~Anonymous

“Each morning the day lies like a fresh shirt on our bed; this incomparably fine, incomparably tightly woven tissue of pure prediction fits us perfectly. The happiness of the next twenty-four hours depends on our ability, on waking, to pick it up.”  ~Walter Benjamin

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Growing older

   Well, for some reason I am extremely tired tonight, so I won’t write much for fear of mixing all my words together. Plus, you shouldn’t read this unless you have a strong stomach!

    I just thought of something today that made me laugh. When I was a little girl, (ok, maybe not too little, actually I was a teenager Smile) I spent a lot of time with my Grandmother.  I loved my Grandma Johnny, and loved any chance I got to be with her.

   One thing that I remember doing was …she would sometimes ask me to get the  tweezers out and put the long hairs off of her chin, because she couldn’t’ see do that. I actually just did it and thought, how sad that you can’t even see that on your face. I wasn’t grossed out, because she was my Grandmother and I thought she was beautiful inside and out.

    But I have often thought if that is where they got the saying on the story of the 3 little pigs? When the pigs said “ not by the hair of our chinny chin chin”?
Anyway, I warned you that I was tired, did you see how fast I got off track tonight with my thoughts? Smile

    I know have been growing some unwanted facial hair over the years, the kids get absolutely grossed out if they even see me trying to look in the mirror and pull out one of them. At first I thought, this is so embarrassing, how can this be that I am growing more hair on my face as I get older? Then one day, I just laughed…there are a ton of changes that are happening as I get older, and none of them are very appealing or pretty. So if a few unwanted facial hair is as bad as it gets one day, then I realized I am very lucky.

   To prove that I have embracing my aging body, I now just wait till Jeff or Lee finish using their electric razors and then I ask if I can use it. They just about die of embarrassment every time I do!
I just can’t seem to win…but the good news is,  I do have a smooth face! Smile

   Plus, we need to remember…no matter how old a woman is…she is always a Princess deep down inside, even if she had chinny chin hairs!

 

“As we grow old, the beauty steals inward.”   - Bronson Alcott

"The spiritual eyesight improves as the physical eyesight declines."   – Plato

"The great thing about getting older is that you don't lose all the other ages you've been."   - Madeleine L'Engle


"Old age is not so bad when you consider the alternative."   - Maurice Chevalier

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

52 years old and still counting!

Someone asked me today if I am worried about being 52 years old? I just smiled and said  "I am just glad to still be here, the numbers aren't important to me, except that I get to keep adding one more each year. Yes, I was grateful to have another birthday to celebrate with my family. I am grateful that so many of my friends called and sent me birthday wishes. Yes, I have a lot to celebrate on my 52nd birthday today!  I have the opportunity to have another year with my family and friends and I am healthy. I am in less pain than I have been in years, plus I am able to be teaching and working at the Quilt Shop some. So even though I didn't get to  have all of my family around me for my special day (which is the only other wish I had ), Amy and Lee made sure that they had it covered and they did a wonderful job!

Just take a look at these faces...don't they look like they have everything in control?

It was a great day, thanks so much for all your love and wishes, it was a great day!

"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."  ~ Abraham Lincoln

"Old age isn’t so bad when you consider the alternative."

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Travel lighter!

This story made me smile, because I am always sweating each time we arrive to the air port and check in my luggage. I pray silently as they weigh it, hoping it doesn't weigh more than 50 pounds. Seriously, aren't there classes or something out there, to teach you how to pack and travel lighter?  I really want to learn how, maybe like this story I should relax more, maybe that is my problem. I always try pack lots of things, just in case I need them.
Anyway, this was a sweet story about relaxing and truly appreciating the MOMENTS in life! Since my battles with Cancer, I feel like I do that a lot anyway. But like all of us...it never hurts to have a reminder!

Good night dear friends!

 

I Would Pick More Daisies 

When the late Nadine Stair of Louisville, Kentucky, was 85 years old, she was asked what she would do if she had her life to live over again.
"I'd make more mistakes next time," she said. "I'd relax. I would limber up. I would be sillier than I have been on this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would take more chances. I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers. I would eat more ice cream and less beans. I would perhaps have more actual troubles, but I'd have fewer imaginary ones.
"You see, I'm one of those people who live sensibly and sanely hour after hour, day after day. Oh, I've had my moments, and if I had to do it over again, I'd have more of them. In fact, I'd try to have nothing else. Just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day. I've been one of those persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, and a raincoat. If I had to do it over again, I would travel lighter than I have.
"If I had my life to live over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall. I would go to more dances. I would ride more merry-go-rounds and I would pick more daisies." ~ Don Herold(Adapted) ~http://www.inspirationpeak.com/cgi-bin/stories.cgi?record=42

"Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." ~Unknown

"Prosperity depends more on wanting what you have than having what you want." Geoffrey F. Abert

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Leaning into the curves

Today is Jeff's birthday, he really didn't remember that, but all of us did. I am not sure if Jeff's family made a big deal out of birthdays or most holidays but to celebrate each birthday and holiday is our family tradition. I don't know, life is just hard enough...I think it is important to remember those special days in our lives. We went out to lunch today (after my  Dr. gave me the ok, that my pneumonia was gone ) and then we went to a book store for a minute. One book title that caught my attention was called Learning to lean into the curves or something like that. I didn't even  have to pick it up to understand what the title meant, I have heard Jeff say that more than one occasion.

I got Jeff a motorcycle a couple of years ago, many of my friends told me that is the craziest thing I could have ever done. They didn't want their husbands to have one, they are just too dangerous. Well, if you would have told me that years ago, I would have agreed with you 100%, but ever since I was diagnosed with Cancer, my perspective in life has changed some. I don't want to be living life scared of a lot of things, like I have done most of my life. Now remember, it isn't me that bought a motorcycle for myself, but for Jeff. I had no idea that he always dreamed of having one. My logic was, the money was given to me and even though we put most of it to good sensible uses...paying of bills and putting some away for college for the kids, paying for my cancer bills...I felt a real need to get Jeff something that he would really love. I had no idea when I asked him, that it would be a motorcycle. Yes, I thought they were just too dangerous but for some reason I knew that he was a grown man, who had spent most of his adult life being the most incredible husband and father. He never asks for anything for himself, he never even took too  much time when the kids were growing up to do things for himself. I don't think I have ever given a gift that was so appreciated in my life. He can hardly wait each morning to check the weather and see if he can ride his bike to work. Wouldn't it be great if we all had something that brought such joy and pleasure to us each day that we could hardly wait to get up?

lauren and Jeff with motorcycle

Now having said that, I have to admit that riding with him on the bike scares me to death. It isn't actually my thing. Lucky for Jeff some of his kids don't feel that way, and can't wait to ride with  him... as you can see in the photo with Lauren. I actually rode on it with him on my 50th birthday, never prayed so hard in all my life! :) I had a real problem with the curves. Jeff and the bike would lean one way and I would lean the other. I just knew if I leaned with him that we were going to fall over and think of all the injuries!  ( See, obviously I am not there yet ).

I do think that learning to lean into the curves has a bigger and more profound meaning that just on motorcycles. I think it applies to life, so often we fight the hard parts, the scary parts and so we often  pull too much the other way, making it dangerous that way too. So tonight as I think of Jeff and the many things I have learned from him throughout the (almost) 32 years that we have been together, and I feel blessed. He is my best friend and even though life hasn't been easy for us, we have certainly learned how together to lean into the curves that life has thrown us. Now if only I could learn to do that on his bike.... someday! Happy Birthday Jeff!

"May you live all the days of your life."   ~ Jonathan Swift

"Grow old along with me!
The best is yet to be, the last of life, for which the first was made."
  
~ Robert Browning

"No wise man ever wished to be younger."   ~ Jonathan Swift

Monday, April 5, 2010

Never too old to learn!

I have always heard the saying..."You can't teach an old dog new tricks".  Well, I am not sure that I believe that in every circumstances, but I did like this article about learning from your dog. I had a dog from the age of 10 years old till I left home for good, at 21 years old. I had moved away for the summer or a year or so, but I always came back home and there was my sweet dog that never seemed to have forgotten me. This was just a cute reminder... that we need to never be TOO OLD to learn or change our ways or to appreciate what we have.

 


When loved ones come home, always run to greet them
Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride
Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face
to be pure ecstasy
When it's in your best interest
practice obedience
Let others know when they've invaded your territory
Take naps and stretch before rising
Run romp and play daily
Thrive on attention and let people touch you
Avoid biting, when a simple growl will do
On warm days stop to lie on your back on the grass
On hot days drink lots of water and lay under a shady tree
When you're happy dance around and wag your entire body
No matter how often you're scolded
don't buy into the guilt thing and pout
run right back and make friends
Delight in the simple joy of a long walk
Eat with gusto and enthusiasm
Stop when you have had enough
Be loyal
Never pretend to be something you're not
If what you want lies buried
dig until you find it
When someone is having a bad day
be silent .....
...sit close by.
...and nuzzle them gently.

 

" It's what you learn after you know it all that counts."  ~Attributed to Harry S. Truman

"When the student is ready, the master appears."  ~Buddhist Proverb

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

We all need each other

I found this letter that someone wrote to Ann Landers, and thought it was a great reminder how much we all need each other. Too often we get busy and I think we forget to stop and realize the people that really make a difference in our lives. So this letter was great, I hope you take the time out to read it. I hope then we will all take the time out to thank those older people who have touched out lives and shared their wisdom with us. They truly have made a great difference in my life.

I had hoped to write more tonight but I have bronchitis and I have got to go to bed. Good night dear friends!

"Dear Ann Landers," "I am a twenty-two-year-old graduate student who would like to express my admiration for some people who have taught me more than all the books I ever read."

"Dear Older American, I want you to know how much you have improved the quality of my life. Today I was driving down the street. You were sauntering uptown, your white hair shining in the sun, a smile on your face. You waved when I went by, though you had no idea who I was.

"On my first job as a cashier, I was nervous and scared. The line was long and everyone was impatient. You let the others go first because you didn't mind waiting. When your turn came you said, "Take your time. My, but you have pretty eyes." I could have kissed you.

"You say,'Have a nice day,' in the elevator and talk about the weather. I can tell by your gnarled hands that you've done a lot of hard work and I admire that.

"You have an aura of calmness that so many of my generation will never know in their mad rush for money and status. Thanks, Older American, for being there."

 

"Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty - they merely move it from their faces into their hearts."  ~Martin Buxbaum

"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years." ~ Abraham Lincoln

Monday, January 4, 2010

Wisdom

I have always loved to spend time with older people. When I was little I loved spending the day with my grandma, Aunt and their friends. I loved to hear all the things they would talk about it and they seemed to know everything about everybody. I loved that they were so willing to share their knowledge with those younger than them. As I grew older it hurt me to see how many people got frustrated with them and all their stories about life and such. I just loved their stories and always felt like I learned something valuable.

When my grandmother lived with us, I would beg her to tell me the time when she did this or that. As I am getting older  ( "Old age is fifteen years older than I am."  ~Oliver Wendell Holmes),  I realize now, that is because I made her feel appreciated and wanted. When she left our home and had to enter a nursing home, I thought my heart would break. I knew that wasn't what she wanted but, my mom had surgery, made dad was always working and I was leaving home for almost 2  years. When I came back and visited with her, I always loved going to the nursing home. I loved getting to know all the ladies, although some had struggles with their memories...I was always amazed at how much they still had to offer.

I remember Amy ( about 2 years old at the time ) and I going to visit my grandmother. It was never a quick visit because everyone of the ladies called Amy her girl and she and I would stop and visit with each of them before we even got to my grandmother's room. In some ways it was sad to see many of them just sit there day in and day out without ever having any visitors. Yes, I wish that we would have had more time to spend with them but my grandmother needed us too.

Wisdom, when I looked up the word here is what I found...

–noun

1.
the quality or state of being wise; knowledge of what is true or right coupled with just judgment as to action; sagacity, discernment, or insight.

2.
scholarly knowledge or learning: the wisdom of the schools.

3.
wise sayings or teachings; precepts.

How I wish that we could all tap into the wisdom that our elders have. They have seen and lived so much more of life. They have had their share of heartaches and trials. Most of them have all the time in the world, sometimes too much of it and they are lonely. I would encourage all of us in this year of 2010 to find one elderly person whether it is your neighbor, grandparents or just a friend, and really spend time with them.  Learn about their live and their experiences, make them feel important, make them feel loved and needed. You will for sure make a difference for the better in their life, but I also promise you too will be the wiser for it! Have a great day!

 

"The years teach much which the days never knew."  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Father Time is not always a hard parent, and, though he tarries for none of his children, often lays his hand lightly upon those who have used him well; making them old men and women inexorably enough, but leaving their hearts and spirits young and in full vigor.  With such people the gray head is but the impression of the old fellow's hand in giving them his blessing, and every wrinkle but a notch in the quiet calendar of a well-spent life."  ~Charles Dickens

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Choices

I know this story is a bit long but well worth the time it takes to read it. It is all about choices and how important the choices we make each day are. Each of our choices effect someone, maybe some one we know or someone that we have come in contact with that day. I think this story is a perfect reminder to take the time out each day to pay a little more attention to our choices, because if we do... then we might have the same type of results ( life changing ) as this taxi driver did. Have a great day!

The Taxi Ride

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. It was a cowboy's life, a life for someone who wanted no boss. What I didn't realize was that it was also a ministry. Because I drove the night shift, my cab became a moving confessional. Passengers climbed in, sat behind me in total anonymity, and told me about their lives.

I encountered people whose lives amazed me, ennobled me, made me laugh and weep. But none touched me more than a woman I picked up late one August night. I was responding to a call from a small brick four-plex in a quiet part of town. I assumed I was being sent to pick up some partiers, or someone who had just had a fight with a lover, or a worker heading to an early shift at some factory for the industrial part of town.

When I arrived at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window. Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away. But I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself.

So I walked to the door and knocked. "Just a minute", answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie. By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

"Would you carry my bag out to the car?" she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness. "It's nothing", I told her. "I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated". "Oh, you're such a good boy", she said.

When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, "Could you drive through downtown?" "It's not the shortest way," I answered quickly. "Oh, I don't mind," she said. "I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice".

I looked in the rearview mirror. Her eyes were glistening. "I don't have any family left," she continued. "The doctor says I don't have very long." I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. "What route would you like me to take?" I asked. For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl. Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, "I'm tired. Let's go now." We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair. "How much do I owe you?" she asked, reaching into her purse. "Nothing," I said. "You have to make a living," she answered. "There are other passengers," I responded. Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly. "You gave an old woman a little moment of joy," she said. "Thank you." I squeezed her hand, then walked into the dim morning light.

Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life. I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly, lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life. We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware – beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

"PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID...BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL."

Saturday, September 5, 2009

A Dream come true....

I think that all of us would love the opportunity to be famous for even a moment. There is an old saying that goes "Everyone deserves their 30 seconds of fame", or something like that. Well, yesterday our was our son's Bradley's birthday. He got his 30 seconds of fame and more, this past year at Brad's college they have a band festival or battle of the bands so to speak. It is called Guitars Unplugged. Brad and a few of his friends put together a band and decided to try out and they made it to the semi finals and got to perform on stage in front of 5000. They sang and played the song...Johnny Be Good. So here is a photo of our FAMOUS boy on stage ( he is the one on the far left, playing the guitar.

This story seemed fit for the theme of today...

Grandma Moses and Me

I'M TOO OLD AND IT'S TOO LATE, PLAYED OVER AND OVER IN MY MIND. I WAS DISCOURAGED AND EXHAUSTED AFTER ENDING MY MARRIAGE AND MY LAW CAREER AT THE SAME TIME. DESPITE MY INTENSE DESIRE TO BECOME A WRITER, I DOUBTED MY ABILITY TO SUCCEED AS ONE. HAD I WASTED YEARS PURSUING THE WRONG GOALS?

I WAS AT A LOW  POINT WHEN  THE VOICE ON THE RADIO BEGAN TELLING THE STORY OF GRADMA MOSES. ANN MARY MOSES LEFT HOME AT 13, BORE 10 CHILDREN AND WORKED HARD TO RAISE THE 5 WHO SURVIVED. STRUGGLING TO MAKE A LIVING ON POOR FARMS, SHE MANAGED TO PROVIDE A BIT OF BEAUTY ON HERSELF BY EMBROIDERING ON CANVAS.

AT 78, HER FINGERS BECAME TOO STIFF TO HOLD A NEEDLE. RATHER THAN GIVE IN DEBILITY, SHE WENT OUT TO THE BARN AND BEGAN TO PAINT. ON MASONITE PANELS SHE CREATED BRILLIANTLY COLORED, PRECISELY DETAILED SCENES OF COUNTRY LIFE. FOR THE FIRST TWO YEARS, THESE WERE EITHER GIVEN AWAY OR SOLD FOR A PITTANCE. BUT AT THE AGE OF 79, SHE WAS "DISCOVERED" BY THE ART WORLD-AND THE REST IS HISTORY. SHE WENT ON TO PRODUCE MORE THAN 2,000 PAINTINGS, AND HER BOOK ILLUSTRATIONS FOR  "TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS WERE COMPLETED IN HER 100TH YEAR!

AS I LISTENED TO THE RADIO, MY MOOD CHANGED. IF GRANDMA MOSES COULD BEGIN A NEW CAREER AND SUCCEED AFTER 80, MY LIFE STILL HAD HOPE AFTER 30. BEFORE THE PROGRAM ENDED, I CHARGED TO MY COMPUTER TO WORK ON THE NOVEL I'D NEARLY ABANDONED.

IT WAS PUBLISHED EIGHT MONTHS LATER.   ~ Liah Kraft-Kristaine

 

"To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe." ~ Anatole France

"If you lose hope, somehow you lose the vitality that keeps life moving, you lose that courage to be, that quality that helps you go on in spite of it all. And so today I still have a dream." ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

The Trumpet of Conscience