Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 14, 2016

Just a little over a week ago!

Just a little over a week ago, our son Lee and his fiance Caitlin got married.
Amy and I were the lucky ones that got to drive there with her 3 little girls.
Hard...yes! Long...yes! Exhausting...yes!
Fun...yes! Lots of bonding time...yes! Worth it...YES!!!


I have to admit Amy drove more than I did, still eating is the only thing that kept us awake!

Girls were troopers but after a whole day of driving we decided to get a Motel room and rest for the night!

You can see how excited the girls were to get to do a Sleep Over in a Motel! Actually so were we!



Arriving in Salt Lake and being with family and friends, was so fun! I have missed my great nieces and nephews! I love how the cousins all connected!

Two of them, we met for the first time. Oh how I instantly loved them!
Look at those faces...aren't they the sweetest?
We all got to be together for meals!


For a special trip to the Dinosaur Museum, where the kids got to actually dig for bones,


while their parents got to reconnect!

Hard to imagine my own kids, neices and nephews grew up but now to see the next generation...was a Priceless gift!






Stuffed animals have always been near and dear to our hearts, only fitting that Amy's girls got to go home with one each!

Then because we got to Utah a few days early, we were able to have breakfast with some old friends, ones that we hadn't seen in over 35 years...what a treat!

I love, love, loved seeing all the kids and grandkids together.
What a powerhouse of women, these 5 ladies are!
Then after Lee and Caitlin got married, right before they came out of the Temple, Jeff and I came out and acted like we were the newly weds! It was too funny, people starting clicking their cameras then they stopped and I heard someone say... " who are they?" It was too funny,  
What we were really excited about was...we just had our last child get married! Can't you just see the excitement on our faces?

Ok, here is who they were really waiting for, but Jeff and I looked just as excited ...right? :)
All the kids couldn't wait to tell Uncle Lee congratulations!


When I look at these young men, I am grateful first of all ...for Bradley and the great older brother he has always been for Lee. Then as I look at the rest, and I am so thankful that Lee has such incredible friends in his life. Good friends can make all the difference!


Here is the Bride ( our new daughter in law ) and her sweet sisters and friends!

So blessed to have all our family together for such an amazing wedding!


We are glad to see our family getting bigger.
And congrats to Lee and Caitlin, your journey has just begun! We love you!

10 Inspirational Quotes Of The Day:

Good Night dear friends!




Monday, July 27, 2015

This was a Marriage Tip worth remembering!

I loved these quotes! So true for any of our relationships!

Good night dear friends!

Monday, April 13, 2015

VeryWise Wisdom!

This was a great article, and something I think that could be helpful for any marriage.
Good Night dear friends!


Fidelity starts outside the bedroom


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IMG_1793There’s a song in heavy rotation on the radio these days that goes something like this.
You look good, I will not lie. But if you ask where I’m staying tonight. I gotta be like oh baby, no baby, you got me all wrong baby. My baby’s already got all of my love.
The artist, who is undeniably talented and who has a few great tracks in my iTunes library, goes on to resist another drink. “So nah nah, Honey, I’m good. I could have another but I probably should not. I’ve got somebody at home, and if I stay I might not leave alone.”
The song is everywhere. I’ve heard it at the gym, the gas station and at the car wash. Because it represents the death of decent music, maybe it ought to play at funeral homes.
Last week a friend and I dissected the song by text message. It was a classic Lincoln-Douglas debate, but without the intelligence or cool outfits.
We decided that at first listen, the song almost sounds noble. Isn’t the singer saying he has a sweetheart at home that he can’t wait to get to? Aw, he’s so loyal. Here he is engaging with another woman at a club, telling her how attractive she is, but resisting her advances because his soul mate waits on the couch. Isn’t that tender?
Sorry, fictional song guy, but fidelity starts outside the bedroom. And yes, it’s just a song, but the message is dangerous and destructive.
Nearly everyone I’ve known with a broken marriage attributes the death of the relationship to the birth of another.
Does this sound familiar?
A man begins confiding in a female colleague several times a week and they have lunch together. They laugh at one another’s jokes and feel valued.
No big deal, right?
Soon they share frustrations about their own marriages and begin highlighting all the attributes they admire about their new friend that, perhaps, their spouse may not be offering. “You really understand me,” one of them says.
Nothing to see here, right?
They’re not holding hands. They’re not really lying to anyone, are they? They’re just developing a close friendship. Maybe they’re just emailing, texting and emotionally winking at clever inside jokes.
Then, one day, these two chums have a discussion that leads to tears and a long hug. Relax, it’s just a hug. Just a bit of compassion and comfort. It’s a simple, tender touch.
Nothing to stress about, right?
Have they been disloyal? Have they crossed a line? Have they broken marriage vows? Have they had conversations they would never carry on in front of their spouses?
Perhaps that’s the best test. Is the discussion — whether in a crowded deli or by private message — something you would feel completely comfortable sharing with your spouse? Are you confiding things that should be reserved for husband and wife?
Certainly men and women can and should be good friends. In fact, some of my dearest friends from work, church or around town are women with whom I am very comfortable.
There’s Laurie Paisley, a friend in Indiana who coordinates many of my speaking engagements. My wife and I love her like a sister.
Then there’s Chrissy Funk. She’s a great friend who lives a few miles down the road and who alongside my wife has endured plenty of husband hijinks. Along with their kids, they’re among our favorite people on the planet.
Or what about Jennifer Oringdulph? We’ve worked together for years in church assignments and I have tremendous respect for her as a teacher and leader. We playfully tease each other often and I remind her that if we were really siblings, she’d be the slightly older one.
There are many others from all walks of life, both men and women I love and consider like family. But none of them supplant my wife as my best friend.
I wish I could sit down with fictional song guy and buy him a soda. I’d want him to know that while I admire his desire to leave the club early, he’s dancing on very thin ice. Somewhere at home, fictional song gal is wondering why he’s drinking and flirting with a tan, long-legged woman in the first place.
And if you wonder whether you’re emotionally dancing with someone else, turn down the music and talk. Fidelity starts outside the bedroom.
You can find the article HERE:

Monday, November 3, 2014

Happily Ever After

Finally we got Lauren and Nik's  wedding photos back! We love them and we are so excited that we have the memories of such a wonderful day.

Lauren and Nik were married for Time and all Eternity in the Seattle, Wa Temple on Sept 12th

Here are our sweet kids!
Lauren and her boy ( Kai )


Lauren and her girls ( Angie, Audrey and Jenny )
 
The Beardall and Woodards together. ( Nik's parents Russ and Jackie and I served our missions together 34 years ago)  What a small world!


Here are the girls from our family at the wedding!



The bench that Lauren and her Dad made for the reception ( from my Grandma Johnny's 4 poster bed that Jeff and I had when we got married 32 years ago )

 Father Daughter Dance...the best!

On their way to their Happily Ever After...with sparklers and all!
 Here is our sweet Lauren, so glad she found her one and only!








Saturday, August 30, 2014

Only two weeks left!

With all the preparations for the wedding, Jeff and I are still trying to find time and moments to get away together. Trying to have mini Date Nights, so we can regroup and check and see how the other one is doing under such pressure. Not that the pressure of a wedding is bad or anything like that but...it is still pressure and so it helps when we can get away for a moment every now and then and check in.
We have 2 weeks today till the wedding, we are so excited but tired too! I think we almost have it ready, and then I remember something else we haven't done yet. So glad that Krystal and Kai will be coming a week early to help out ( and so is Lee ). Can't wait to have my house full again with our kids and grand kids! 
So yes, we have only 2 weeks to get everything done...wish us luck. But for now, I am just going to try and enjoy every MINI DATE I can get with my BEST FRIEND!
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Speaking of best friends, so glad that Lauren is marrying hers!
Good night dear friends!

"If someone's meant to be yours, eventually they will be."

Thursday, August 14, 2014

Trying to change your spouse?

Read this great article from Jason F. Wright. I love how he took something that the world tells you not to do and explains exactly why you should do just that!
Good night dear friends!


Yes, you should try to change your spouse!

Just for fun, Google this question: “Can I change my spouse?”
Brace yourself. There are more than 5,000,000 results.
What’s the most popular answer? “Don’t try to change your spouse.”
It’s the most parroted slice of marital advice since Adam and Eve said, “I do.”
It sounds snazzy on the surface, doesn’t it? “Just. Change. You.”
Come on, that’s not marital advice. That’s a bumper sticker at a couples’ retreat.
I fell victim, too. During the early part of my 20-year marriage, whenever my wife, Kodi, shared any advice or constructive criticism, the natural man in my head whispered that maybe I just wasn’t good enough. I needed to look in the mirror and change myself into what she wanted me to be.
But through two decades together, I’ve learned that what Kodi really wants is exactly what I want. She doesn’t want a new me; she just wants me to be a better version of the “me” I already am.
Like all couples, my wife and I witness layers of goodness in each other that only we, through marriage, are able to see. It’s one of the great miracles of matrimony.
Kodi knows my talents, tests, strengths and weaknesses like nobody but the Heavenly Father who created us in the first place.
Maybe I’m crazy, but I’m glad my wife is trying to change her flawed husband. She knows just how much better I could be if I had the same confidence in myself that she has in me.
I bet your spouse feels the same. (About you, not about me. That would be weird.)
I’m not too shy to say that I want her to change, too. Not because Kodi isn’t good enough already — she’s magnificent — but because I recognize potential in her that goes beyond this life and into the next.
If your relationship is sometimes out of tune – no marriage is without an off-key note every few bars - make a list of your spouse’s many amazing attributes. Odds are the things you appreciated when you first married are still standing right in front of you.
Focus like a laser on your partner’s positives. Then, help him or her find ways to magnify those attributes until they’re so prominent, there’s nothing else left.
Identify the good, isolate it, protect it, and feed it until it’s all they are. Use praise to crowd out the negative and quit worrying about trying to change what you think is broken. Instead, help them transform what’s good into something even better.
Is your wife good with people? Tell her.
Encourage her. Help her grow those skills into even greater self-confidence.
Is your husband handy around the house? Tell him.
Encourage him. Praise him for doing what many cannot. Invite him to use his talents to bless neighbors and strangers.
Remind your partner in life, love and trials that you are their chief cheerleader. Let them know that because you love God and them, in that order, you want them to change — for good.
Can you change your spouse?
Sure you can, no matter what Google says. But beware; all this changing your spouse might just be good for you, too.
I found the article HERE:
A great spouse loves you exactly as you are.  An extraordinary spouse helps you grow; inspires you to be, do, and give your very best. #Marriage #Quote  http://ultimatedatingsystem.com/

Monday, June 23, 2014

32 years and counting!


Thirty two years ago, I married my Best Friend in the Washington DC Temple for TIME and all ETERNITY! I am grateful for the years we have had, and I pray we will have many more!

A truth that's so easily forgotten.              I hope I never forget that



Friday, January 31, 2014

Tender Mercy

Love this article by Jason Wright.  Amazing how just a change of perspective can make all of the difference.
Good night dear friends!

Esther and the Pocatello ‘tender mercy’

I’d already been on the road seven days by the time I rolled into Pocatello, Idaho, in a rental car that smelled liked dirty socks and bananas. In one week I’d appeared at nine book signings, spoken to a couple thousand schoolchildren and stressed over every detail of my new book launch.
I was tired. I missed my family. I checked into my hotel and discovered something unmentionable left in my room by the previous guests. It was, truly, the trifecta of a book tour bad day.
After a quick dinner, I raced across town to the bookstore that was hosting me for the evening. I found it curious as I approached that no posters were up, no table arranged and no one was waiting.
Even more curious was the look on the friendly store associate’s face when I introduced myself. “I’m here to sign books this evening.”
Her one word response said it all. “Oh.”
An innocent case of miscommunication meant that exactly one person in the store – and, for that matter, presumably the city of Pocatello – had any clue I was supposed to be appearing in the store that night.
Calls were made to the corporate office and the store manager’s home, but without a flux capacitor to better publicize the event, the night was a bust.
And then the phone rang.
A local woman called to say she’d heard I was coming to the area and wanted to confirm before driving over. “He’s here,” the employee said with a sheepish grin on her face.
Before I could even think of accompanying my self-pity back to my miserable hotel room, two employees had set up a table for me and piled it high with books and autographed stickers. I groaned and actually missed my smelly rental car.
And then Esther Van Wart walked in.
Over the course of nearly two hours, Esther and I learned that I was in Pocatello for her, and she was there for me. We sat at the front of the store in oversized leather chairs chatting about life, trials, tender mercies and one incredible life story. Her story moved me to tears then, just as it does on reflection.
Esther, now 58, was married many years ago to a man who quickly gave her six loving children but little else. He was an abusive husband and father, and at her first opportunity, Esther left.
Looking back, Esther recalls telling herself and anyone who would listen, “Who’s going to ever want an overweight, divorced mother with six kids?”
Despite her struggles, Esther stayed close to the Lord and the gospel she cherishes. One week while teaching Sunday School in a small ward in Louisiana, she met a man from Texas visiting his brother.
A longer column would share the series of miracles that led them together. This one, however, will simply reveal that just six days later the man from Texas, John Van Wart, proposed with a sheet-of-paper puzzle.
With the help of seven stop signs in her neighborhood, she answered, “Yes,” and her dream of a rare second chance at love and a long marriage came true.
John and Esther soon had two children to add to the six he’d legally adopted as his own. They were sealed as an eternal family in the Dallas Temple.
In the fall of 2009, facing serious financial stress with John’s business struggling, John and Esther decided to cancel his life insurance policy. They’d been seemingly paying the bill forever and both were healthy. It became something they could live without.
And all of a sudden, they couldn’t.
Three weeks after canceling his life insurance, John volunteered to go kayaking with the Boy Scouts in Blackfoot, Idaho. The trip was a success, even if he returned complaining of a sore back. It was nothing a quick visit to the chiropractor couldn’t solve.
Three weeks after the kayaking adventure, Esther insisted the persistent pain might be more serious than a pulled muscle or out-of-place vertebrae. Together they went to the hospital and were surprised when a doctor ordered an MRI.
Imagine their added surprise when the doctor said, “You have lung cancer.”
“But he’s never smoked!” Esther said.
No complaints. No lashing out at God. No what ifs. I’d never seen such spiritual strength. Her faith could have moved the Idaho mountains that surrounded us.
Before we said goodbye that night, my new friend shared the final piece of her heavenly story. A few months after John’s death, Esther received a Christmas Jar holding roughly $10. It was not enough to solve their problems but just enough to change their lives.
I have counted my blessings many times since meeting Esther. I am grateful for my family, our health, for botched book signings, for my Father in Heaven and for the tender mercy of meeting one of his most choice children.
Esther Van Wart, you were right: Our meeting was an honor. But the real privilege was all mine.
“It’s non-smokers, and it’s serious.”
In shock and seeing stars, they asked bluntly, “How long?”
The doctor’s answer didn’t matter then or now. Three weeks later, John Van Wart was gone.
There could have been a thousand people waiting to see me in the bookstore that night and I wouldn’t have known they were there. I couldn’t have seen them anyway; my eyes were filled with tears.
My list of complaints shamed me: uncomfortable rental cars, dirty hotel rooms, book sales anxiety, a broken cellphone charger and being away from home. Across from me sat a woman with a smile on her face and faith in her heart. “It’s a new chapter in my life,” she said. “I wonder what I’ll be when I grow up.”
"There is always something to be grateful for."  ~ Crystal Paine
You can find the article HERE:
 

Friday, September 27, 2013

Friday, August 30, 2013

It's Date Night... so enjoy this story called Decades of Love

This was the perfect Date Night Story. Just watch this 96 year old man, talk about his wife of  73 years...she had just passed away only a month ago.
Good night dear friends!



Get out those tissue boxes. This 96-year-old man's love song for his late wife is guaranteed to make you tear up.
Fred Stobaugh, from Peoria, Ill., wrote the lyrics to what he called "Oh Sweet Lorraine" after his 91-year-old wife died last April. The couple met in 1938 and were married for 73 years, according to ABC News.

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Thursday, July 11, 2013

LIving with Contentment!

Today was my 54th Birthday, thank you for all the sweet B-day wishes I got!  I am tired, just got home and need to head to bed. Then this story caught my eye on contentment. I think that is one thing that I could truly say about my life today, right now... I am content. I need to remember that more often and to count the blessings I have more often. How grateful I am that I got another year with my best friend and husband, with my family and dear friends. Yes, my Birthday and my year last year was a great one, and I hope this coming year...only gets better!
Good night dear friends!

Couple married for 80 years, longest in America!






FAIRFIELD, Conn. — John and Ann Betar eloped in 1932, and now, 80 years later, they are still happily married.
John, 101, and Ann, 97, of Fairfield, Conn., were named the longest-married couple in the United States by the faith group Worldwide Marriage Encounter according to the New York Daily News.
"Here you have a couple who made a commitment, and they stuck to it," Worldwide Marriage Encounter spokesperson Dick Baumbach said. John and Ann were selected out of 297 nominations collected between October 2012 and January 2013. While there may be longer marriages that were not nominated, Baumbach explained that each year the group encourages more submissions.
According to a frequently updated Wikipedia site, John and Ann hold the 16th place for the longest marriage. According to the site, Karam Chand and Kartari Chand from the United Kingdom, hold the No. 1 spot, with 87 years of marriage.
As for the Betars, they met as children, but Ann's parents had arranged for her to marry another man, one who was 20 years older than her. Although Ann was not excited about the arrangement, John said it took some time to convince her that he was the right one.
"I fell for her right away," John told ABC News. "I used to have a Ford Roaster and I used to pick her and her friends and drive them to high school. Gradually she liked me and we got together."
For Ann, who was only 17 years old at the time, it was a big decision to choose John and go against her parents' will.
"At 17, you wonder if you're making the right choices," she told ABC News. "I had grown up with him and we had good times together and we knew each other very well. And it's turned out to be 80 years. ... God seems to have been with us. And we've been very fortunate and wonderful."
So on Nov. 25, 1932, the young couple elopled to Harrison, N.Y., as that was as far as their money would take them.
"They were going against all odds," Renee Betar, the couple's daughter, said.
Now with five children, 14 grandchildren and 16 great-grandchildren, Ann and John continue to show their love to each other.
"Your love grows, you know," Ann Betar said in a video interview. "Grown in very good direction for the two of us."
As a couple, John and Ann enjoy reading together, cooking and maintaining a moderate diet. According to John, there's nothing too complicated because love and commitment have kept them together.
"We just live with contentment and don't live beyond our means," John Betar said. "Just go with the flow."
Both John and Ann expressed their gratitude for the chance to spend such a long time together.
"We are very fortunate. It can be repeated and repeated," Ann said in an interview with ABC News. "It is unconditional love and understanding. We have had that. We consider it a blessing."
Daughter Renee agreed, stating: "Their decision to marry reinforces the strength of their love and their determination to be together. It's no big deal being married 80 years when you're in love."
A photo of John and Ann has recently circulated on Facebook, celebrating their achievement. The picture has more than 13,000 comments, 21,000 shares and 619,000 likes.
Donna Aldridge commented, "Now that's how life should be! What a sweet picture — still holding hands. I love it!"

Monday, June 10, 2013

Did you have your C.O.C.?

I have had a great week, busy but good. Then by Friday my back went out again so it has been a bit of a tough weekend. Still, thinking about all the good things that happened ...and all the great people I have met or been with this week, I can say it was a Good Week!. I have made a few new friends lately ( I know you probably aren't surprised ) but I am always admiring the ones who had such a tough childhood and continue to want to make life different and even better for their children. Many of us did not have our C. O. C. ( (Childhood of Choice ) but still we have been able to learn and grow from it ...then stop the abusive or negative behaviors that we grew up with....all in the hopes to have our kids be safe and to have their lives be better than ours. I have looked up to my husband Jeff, ever since I have known him. He did not grow up with his C. O. C. either, but still he has become an incredible Dad and great Husband, despite his lack of example to teach him those things. We know others who have done the same and I really admire them and their strength and courage.
I also have talked to 3 individuals who they or someone they know have been effected by Cancer. Wow, that has been quite a few just in the last 2 months. My heart breaks when they tell me, for I can see and certainly remember the same fear in my eyes...that I see in theirs. Life is full of lessons isn't it and it is also about choices.


Just in closing, let me tell you about one simple choice that I made 35 years ago today and how it has changed my life forever. 35 years ago, this young nice looking, college guy from church asked me out. I was so excited, I had been secretly been hoping he would asked me out, ever since his old girlfriend left out of town. ( I know that sounds bad and she was a friend of mine too but...still I wanted him to go out with me!!! ) And so he did, I can still remember sitting on our porch waiting to hear his car come up the road. ( Yes, I lived a mile up a dirt road, did I mention I was from West Virginia? :) As soon as I could see the car coming, I went back into the bathroom to triple check my hair and make sure I looked as good as possible. My Grandmother was sitting out on the porch, she wanted to meet this young man that I had been talking so excitedly about, for awhile. So she was the first person he met, we still laugh to this day because my Grandmother said later, that she liked him and she thought he was very handsome, even thought he looked like Tom Selleck ( the movie star ). The reason we still laugh about it is because my Grandmother was legally blind and deaf. So Jeff didn't really think that was a good judgement of a compliment! :) But she was right, he was a great guy and one of the best that I had ever dated, plus terribly handsome! And since my dating years began way...before they should have. I had dated quite a few guys before him.
Yes, that one little decision 35 years ago, lead to another date and another date ....until 4 years later, and then we were married!  So I know it seems silly to celebrate the Anniversary of a First Date...but this wasn't any old First Date... it was the First Date with the man that I was going to marry for Eternity. Now that is worth celebrating! I still get excited when he is about to come home, still run in the bathroom and make sure I look my best...gee how fun to still be in love with someone 35 years later, actually I love him even more today!
So even though I might not have had the C. O. C., I did get the man of my dreams and that has made all the difference in my life and the life of our kids and now our Grandkids! Yes, little ( but good )  choices can lead to very big and good things!
So a good question to ask yourself tonight is .... Did you have the C. O. C. ? And if you did or didn't, how have the choices you made...been good or bad for your life? Just a thought!
Good night dear friends!

Saturday, June 8, 2013