Today I found this sweet story about listening and how we train ourselves to hear only certain things. I thought about that, because I had someone say something to me the other day that ALMOST hurt my feelings. I ALMOST got defensive and then I actually waited for a minute and didn't try to find a come back reply but just listened to my heart. I was asking myself if that was true at all, was there any truth in what she said to me and I realized that I didn't feel there was. Now, I couldn't change their opinion... but I realized that I really need to listen more often, to what my heart and gut are telling me and if I do, then maybe what others say won't be so hard on me.
I think I mentioned before about reading a book called DIVINE CENTER (by Stephen R. Covey). Anyway, it talks a lot about how we all see the world differently, through different lens in our glasses. And our prescription for those glasses are made from our past experiences in life. That is why we all see things differently than others. That is why many of us have strong opinions and are passionate about certain things. He talks about how hard it is to see someone else's point of view. He talks about how important it is to not try to convince others that what they see or think is wrong (because it isn't wrong to them) but to try and understand and see the bigger picture. Let people be where they are, you can't make someone see your point of view. Many times others will never quite see or feel it like you do, unless they have walked in your shoes ( or had the same experiences ) and not too many of us have done that.
So today Chris and I went to order our business cards, that my son Brad designed. More sweet friends came over and brought us dinner. Another friend come over tonight and try to help Jeff and I set up a web site, we were so grateful for him to do that. So in that area of my life...things are moving forward and we are hopefully on our way to having these RECNAC GIFTS more available and out there for people to buy for their loved ones and friends fighting with cancer. We need someone who knows how to run a business to find us. We need a sponsor or foundation to help build up this company to something that could be much bigger and to reach more people. I need to remember to listen to my heart and I know the right person, company, foundation or something will come along to make this dream come true. I need to stop listening to that voice that says ..."you can't make it, you don't have enough talent, time, energy, money to start up a company". There is a time and place for everything and everything has a reason so I will continue to work on this business and pray that I will be guided on where to go next.
As far as my health goes, I can't seem to get enough energy or out of pain long enough to do much of anything. I want to quit hurting and have energy to do something with Jeff and the kids. I am a bit discouraged today but.....thank goodness it is almost over. So good night dear friends, hope you enjoy the short story!
What are You Listening For?
It was high noon in midtown Manhattan. The streets were buzzing with activity—crowds of people scurrying to lunch, car horns honking, brakes screeching, a siren wailing. Two men were making their way through the throng of noon-time lunch-goers. One was a native New Yorker, the other a Kansas farmer on his first visit to see his city cousin. Suddenly, the farmer stopped and said to the city dweller, "Hold on! I hear a cricket!"
His cousin replied, "Are you kidding? Even if there was a cricket around here, which isn’t likely, you would never be able to hear it over all this noise."
The farmer remained quiet for a few moments, then walked several paces to the corner where a shrub was struggling to grow in a large cement planter. He turned over several leaves and found the cricket. The city dweller was flabbergasted. "What great ears you have," he said.
"Not at all," the farmer replied. "Your ears are as good as mine. It’s a matter of what you’ve been conditioned to listen for. Here, I’ll show you." Whereupon, he pulled a handful of coins from his pocket and let them clink to the sidewalk. As if on signal, every head on the block turned. "You see," said the farmer, "you hear what you are tuned in to listen for." ~ www.appleseeds.org
"To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to." ~Kahlil Gibran
"Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart ... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside awakens." ~ Carl Jung