I have a few friends who are expecting babies. For some of them it is their first baby, and for others, their 2nd, 3rd and 4th. As I was talking to another friend of mine who is a young Mom, I remembered having some of the same feelings that she was having. She and a friend had disagreed on each other's parenting style, that happens...it isn't an easy thing, but it really does happen. The trick is to save the friendship and yet continue to respect each others differences. Too often is it easier to say ... "my way is the right way ", well it is the right way for you and your child,but maybe not for another Mother and hers. And the truth is ...we tend to spend our time around those who have similar parenting styles as we do. That is where we are more comfortable.
But I think we need to remember that we are all in this together, we are all Mothers, we of all people, need to respect our differences and focus on our strengths. Motherhood is hard. It is vital for each Mom, to realize that she does not have to raise her baby on her own. She and her husband, can and should ask for counsel from the Lord. You are the only ones that will receive inspiration, on how to raise your child. Even though we are all different, we Mothers really should stick together, you know ...safety in numbers!
I loved this quote about Motherhood, and how much help we can truly get if we just ask for it. The world is getting tougher out there for our kids to grow up in, it is vital that we help our children, we need to nurture them and help them develop great faith. Then they will be better prepared to handle the world that they are to grow up in.
Good night dear friends, from a Mother who has been there...done that! ( and usually the hard way! )
“When you have come to the Lord in meekness and lowliness of heart and, as one mother said, “pounded on the doors of heaven to ask for, to plead for, to demand guidance and wisdom and help for this wondrous task,” that door is thrown open to provide you the influence and the help of all eternity. Claim the promises of the Savior of the world. Ask for the healing balm of the Atonement for whatever may be troubling you or your children. Know that in faith things will be made right in spite of you, or more correctly, because of you.
You can’t possibly do this alone, but you do have help. The Master of Heaven and Earth is there to bless you—He who resolutely goes after the lost sheep, sweeps thoroughly to find the lost coin, waits everlastingly for the return of the prodigal son. Yours is the work of salvation, and therefore you will be magnified, compensated, made more than you are and better than you have ever been as you try to make honest effort, however feeble you may sometimes feel that to be.” Jeffrey R. Holland, “‘Because She Is a Mother’,” Ensign, May 1997