Saturday, July 30, 2011

Home again!

I flew home today, and boy did if feel good to see Jeff and the kids again. I love seeing my family and friends when I travel, but it is always good to come HOME. I forget how much I love my home and how grateful I am for it. I am pretty tired from the trip, but wanted to post something for you tonight. So this will be short and sweet. I hope you enjoy it, I know most of it is common sense... but sometimes it is the SIMPLE things in life that get over looked.

Good night dear friends!

Work hard at what you like to do and try to overcome all obstacles
Laugh at your mistakes and praise yourself for learning from them
Pick some flowers and appreciate the beauty of nature
Say hello to strangers and enjoy the people you know
Don't be afraid to show your emotions laughing and crying make you feel better
Love your friends and family with your entire being they are the most important part of your life
Feel the calmness on a quiet sunny day
Find a rainbow and live your world of dreams always remember life is better than it seems

"Where we love is home - home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts."  ~Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

"Every house where love abides
And friendship is a guest,
Is surely home, and home sweet home
For there the heart can rest."
~Henry Van Dyke

Childlike

I love to watch how children make friends so easily. Tonight we went to a park to watch my niece and nephew-in-law play tennis. While we were there, my other niece and her daughter ( my great-niece ) went over to the play ground. As we were standing there talking... a little girl in a purple sun dress and about 7 years old, came up to me and asked if I would be her friend. I said " Yes, what is your name my new friend?" Without hesitation she said " My name is Rapunzel Taylor". To which I quickly replied " Really my name is Cinderella " , she smiled and said "really?". Then we went on to play for a little while before I had to go.

Yes, we would all do better if we were a little more childlike, a little more willing to accept everyone as they are...a friend that we just haven't met yet! I am grateful to my new friend Rapunzel Taylor for asking me to be her new friend! It made me happy tonight! Good night to all my new friends, and my old friends!

"We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today."  ~Stacia Tauscher

"The world is as many times new as there are children in our lives."  ~Robert Brault

"Little girls have a magic all their own."  ~ Unknown

"Yes, you're the fairest of them all."  ~ Unknown

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Spiritual lifeguards

I still don't feel quite like myself today, so I will just share an article that I read from Jason W. Wright. He writes a weekly column that you can find here...

http://jasonfwright.com/column/help-wanted-spiritual-lifeguards.html

He is great writer and very inspiring, hope you enjoy it! Good night dear friends.

 

Help wanted: Spiritual lifeguards

July 27, 2011

 

Last week my family took a long-awaited “dinger.” The term was introduced to me by a good buddy who often takes his large family on shorter trips - “dingers” - which typically last just a night or two. If Disney for a week is a “vacation,” then a trip to a nearby theme park or the beach for two nights is a “dinger.”

We spent the first night of our dinger at Great Wolf Lodge in Williamsburg, Va. It's a recipe for complete awesomeness. One part hotel, one part all-you-can-eat buffet and one part indoor water park with slides so scary even my older kids wouldn’t ride most of them.

Not wanting to waste a dime, or, more importantly, an opportunity to scream like a 10-year-old, I rode the bigger slides all by myself. Imagine the looks a 40-year-old man gets standing at the top of a tall tower carrying a raft and waiting his turn to ride “Alberta Falls.” The term “stranger danger” comes to mind.

The rest of my pack spent much of its day safely on the ground enjoying the wave pool. Every 10 minutes, motors beneath the five-foot deep end chug and churn waves up to three-feet high. It’s everything you want in a beach without the sand and jellyfish.

When I finally joined the gang in the wave pool, I couldn’t help but notice the lifeguards. As we swam and bobbed up and down in the water, young men and women walked the edges of the pool in a definitive pattern, rotating positions and seemingly checking trouble spots every few seconds.

They were, quite simply, the most vigilant lifeguards I’ve ever seen. Not a pint of water in the pool went unattended or unnoticed. Later, while enjoying the lazy river, I observed the same intense attention by a different crew. Lifeguards appeared to own 15 to 20 feet of responsibility on the winding river that twisted its way through the park. With eyes wide open, they paced their respective areas scanning the water, bending down to check blind spots on curves, then circling back again.

I asked my wife during lunch if she’d noticed the lifeguards’ incredible watchfulness. Her look said, “Really? I’m a mother. I noticed before anyone ever dipped a toe.” All afternoon and evening we commented back and forth on the professionalism of the young men and women tasked with keeping our children safe and accounted for.

The next day we drove on to Virginia Beach for another exciting dinger day, but my mind was still on the lifeguards at Great Wolf Lodge.

The final day of our journey took us to Richmond., Va., for a fun night at a modern, New York City studio apartment-style hotel. We had a great time, but I still couldn’t stop thinking about what I’d observed two days earlier.

As parents, we draw lines to protect our young ones from obvious danger. I remember well a neighbor years ago who painted a thick line at the bottom of her driveway and added above it in white spray paint: “Mom’s Line of Peril.” The implication was obvious.

We lock up guns and keep knives out of reach. We design and distribute medicine and cleaning bottles with childproof safety features. We bark at our loved ones to buckle up before we ever put the car in gear.

There we go, back and forth along the poolside of life, checking high-risk spots.

I was stunned and impressed by the lifeguards’ attention to the physical safety of my children. But what about their spiritual safety? Am I an equally vigilant spiritual lifeguard?

Do I scold them for playing with matches, but then invite them to the couch for a filthy television show that could inflict as much or more harm?

Do I insist they wear a helmet, but ignore the music they purchase for their iPods?

Do I encourage them to drink water instead of soda, or to eat more vegetables, or to take their vitamins, but ignore the text messages they send or the language they use?

After school each day, do I double back like a watchful lifeguard and check again on my children? Do I ask, “How was your day? How are your friends? Are you happy? Do you need to talk?”

The answer is yes, I do those things, but not nearly as often nor as well as I should.

We're home now. The dinger is done and we're back in the rhythm of life, but I pray my family never forgets the fun they had and the memories they made.

I pray they are grateful for and never forget the lifeguards who so brilliantly watched over and protected their physical safety.

But more importantly, I pray I never forget the prompting that I need to become a more effective spiritual lifeguard.

Will you join me?

 

"We cannot and we must not allow the school, community,
television, or even Church organizations to establish our children's
values. The Lord has placed this duty with mothers and fathers. It is one
from which we cannot escape and one that cannot be delegated. Others may
help, but parents remain accountable. Therefore, we must guard the sanctity
of our homes, because that is where children develop their values,
attitudes, and habits for everyday living." ~ M. Russell Ballard

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

The power of FEAR!

Well, I am still struggling with abscess tooth. I am a bit discouraged that I got sick while on vacation, not exactly what I was planning to do. I slept most of the day, trying to get off the pain medicine because it is tearing up my stomach. I am starting to feel a bit better tonight, but laying very low. So of course the only thing that I have done lately is watch yet another movie...this one was called THE VILLAGE written and directed by M. Night Shyamalan 

The movie was about ... The population of a small isolated  countryside village believe that their alliance with the mysterious creatures that inhabit the forest around them is coming to an end.

It reminds you how powerful fear can be, and how some people use it to control others. The movie was good, scary and powerful ...I think about how we can pass on knowledge... or fear to the next generation.

I hope I feel better tomorrow and I will be more motivating! Good night dear friends.

 

"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear." ~ Mark Twain

"Fear is the main source of superstition, and one of the main sources of cruelty. To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom." ~Bertrand Russell

"Fear is only as deep as the mind allows." ~Japanese Proverb

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Pain, pain and more pain!

For the past few days I have had a toothache, I have tried to just ignore it for two reasons. One... because I am on vacation and far from my dentist and two...because I checked which tooth it is, and it is root canal and a crown so I figured it couldn't really be this tooth. I couldn't take the pain and throbbing much more so I called my dentist yesterday. I had a really rough night, up almost every 3-4 hours and took 3 Advil and kept heating up my rice bag. This morning I finally got a hold of my dentist, he checked my records and asked me some questions...he is pretty sure that my root canal has gone bad, and that I have an acute abscess!.
So he suggested that I get into my sister-in-laws dentist, he was so nice to get me in so quickly and basically said the same thing that my dentist told me. He gave me prescriptions for two antibiotics and a pain killer. He told me to not travel for a few days and to stay low. So that is what I did all day laid low and prayed that I would be able to handle the pain until the infection starts to leave. I don't ever remember having a toothache like this before.

I really don't have a lot of happy or motivational things to say tonight, I just hurt too bad. I did however watch the movie Secretariat today, and I loved the moral of the story. The only bad thing about it was...the horse in the movie got sick and he had an abscess too, that is too weird. But I did listen to the words to one of the songs and so that will be my inspiration for tonight.

IT'S WHO YOU ARE

It's not the price
It's not the game
It's not the score
It's not the fame
Whatever road looks way too far
It's not what you have
It's who you are
It's not how fast
It's not how far
It's not of cheers
It's who you are
In darkest night
You make your sun
You choose your race
And then you run
It's never the glory
It's never the score
It's not about seeing about who's less and who's more
'Cause when you find out how fast and how far
You'll know it's not how much you have
It's who you are
You lose the moon
Then be a star
It's not too soon
Be who you are
Whatever road looks way too far
It's not what you have
It's who you are
It's never the glory
It's never the score
It's not seeing about seeing
Who's less and who's more
'Cause when you find out how fast and how far
You'll know it's not how much you have
It's who you are
When you have found
How fast you can run
Then you have found
Your place in the sun,
It won't be just you that you'll find
Has made the run and the climb
It's everyone
It's never the glory
It's never the score
It's not seeing about seeing
Who's less and who's more
'Cause when you find out how fast and how far
you'll know it's not how much you have
It's who you are
It's who you are
Learning to bend and not to break
Living to give more than you take
Dying to live
Living to try
Feet on the ground
Dreams in the sky
It's never how much you have
It's who you are

Monday, July 25, 2011

Red headed temper?

Have you ever wondered where some statements, or so called well known facts, or even some habits originated from?  Like for instance, that all red heads have fiery tempers? When I know some red heads that don't . Or the comments that are made about blondes all being dumb. Or even other habits or traditions that are passed down. Like when you make a statement and then you knock on wood so you don't jinx yourself. Things like that...I have always wondered where they came from and why we keep doing them, even when we don't believe them?  Most of them are harmless but I notice that even I say and do those things many times, then I stop and realize that I just made a blanket statement or that I just knocked on wood too and I am not even superstitious. I guess some of them are just habits, but many times I have thought I probably shouldn't pass them on to another generation.
I thought about this subject when my daughter had this photo of my granddaughter, Jenny on her blog. She is fiery and she is a red head, then I quickly remember our little Lauren and her hair was brunette, and she was one fiery toddler too...so that proves that some of things are just ....passed on ...stuff, not necessarily true or correct... just passed on. It does make one stop and think though of the power of our thoughts and actions. Sometimes I wonder if the person (who first said you have to knock on wood so that you won't bring back bad luck to you or whatever the reason is behind that) knows what a powerful thing they did, because it has continued on for years? I wish I could come up with something positive that the whole world would just pick up and do every time they encountered something negative. Wonder what that would be?  Oh well, just food for thought tonight!

"Superstitions are habits rather than beliefs."  ~ Marlene Dietrich

"You'll find superstition a contagious thing. Some people let it get the better of them."  ~ Curt Siodmak

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Family!

Today Jeff and I drove to see one of his sisters, who he hadn't seen in over 6 years. We were not quite sure what the reunion would be like. We hadn't seen her children in probably 10 years or more, and I was really hoping that they would be there. Funny how family things can be the best or the worst in life. I guess that is because of the closeness you do or do not have. Anyway, I am happy to say that it went well, and all of her kids were there too. It was her birthday and so we just wanted her to know that she was thought of and loved.

Jeff and I were thrilled to see the kids, I hardly knew them...they had grown up so much. It was nice to catch up on each other's life and to just give them and hug and let them know we loved them. We also took photos and exchanged email address, in hopes that it won't be another 10 years before we connect again. I am not sure if things will really change between the siblings, but there was definitely an effort made by them to show her they cared.

Life is all about choices isn't it? Think I already wrote a whole post on this, but it is so true. I am glad we made the choice to go see her and her family. I have really missed her kids. I think all in all, it was a positive experience and that is exactly what we were praying for.

Good night dear friends!

"Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one." ~Jane Howard

"Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in."   ~ Robert Frost

"To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right"   – Confucius.

No news but good news!

  As I mentioned Jeff and I are at a family reunion. Last night we stayed at a beautiful home up in the mountains, it was wonderful but we had no inter-net access for me to write my blog, and that is why yesterday you didn't hear from me at all. Not that I think the whole world waits by their computers ...to see what Lynn Woodard has to say, each day. But I myself miss sharing some of my thoughts and life with you, and I need the motivational thoughts probably more than any of you do. So I was sorry that I couldn't write last night.
   Well, it is late and I need to get to bed. We are visiting more family tomorrow. Some of the family had to leave tonight, it was hard to say good-bye. We all really had a great time and we feel blessed we could come and spend this time together.
   Another reason that I felt bad for not being able to write last night is because I have some REALLY GOOD NEWS TO SHARE WITH YOU!!! Jeff and I are going to be grandparents again!!! Our son Brad and his wife Krystal are expecting and we just couldn't be more excited! I am telling you that these grand babies...are the best!!!
   So even though I can't write much, I could hardly wait to share my GOOD NEWS with you. Good night dear friends and thank you for always being there!!!

"A new baby is like the beginning of all things, hope, a dream of possibilities."

"A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bank balance smaller, home happier, clothes dirty, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for."

"A baby is born with a need to be loved -- and never outgrows it."
Frank A. Clark

Thursday, July 21, 2011

Choices!

Life is full of choices, that is obvious... but I do like the idea that some choices are better than others. Last night I had to make a choice, to do my bills, pack and get some sleep or...write my blog. Not that my blog takes me that long to write, but sometimes I do put quite a bit of time and effort, trying to find or think of something that is positive and motivating. Jeff and I flew out EARLY this morning to his family reunion. I knew all day yesterday that I had certain things that had to be done, and certain things that I just wanted to do. It is funny but when I get really nervous or stressed on trying to get something done, I usually start sewing. I know that is probably not the choice that I should have made but I did. Also, Amy and the girls came over to see me, and since I will be gone for 10 days, I think the choice to spend time with them was .....one of my better choices yesterday. Nevertheless by 11:30 last night, I still wasn't packed and hadn't done my blog. I don't like writing in a hurry and so I made the choice to go to bed and get a little bit of sleep instead of writing.

I remember once seeing a demonstration where a girl put 6 eggs in a jar and they fit just perfectly and she talked about the eggs being the important things in our lives. Then she showed us a bag of rice, which was to represent all the little things that we do every day in our lives. She then demonstrated if you put all the rice in first, then try to fit in the 6 eggs, there isn't enough room. The moral of the story ( so to speak ) is that if we fill our lives with all the little busy things that we do every day, then we may not have the time or ( space ) for the important things. Life is all about choices. It was a great and since I am a very visual learner, it is something that I will always remember.

Hope you are well and have a good night dear friends!

“No one else can ever make your choices for you. Your choices are yours alone. They are as much a part of you as every breath you will take, every moment of your life.”

“There may be a thousand little choices in a day. All of them count.”

“You cannot manage your life if you do not manage your self. You cannot manage your self if you do not manage your choices. Manage your choices, and you will manage your life.”

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Good Advice!

This was a cute story with good advice for all of us! Enjoy!

How To Deal With Crayon Boxes and...

One of the memories that I will always have about when I was in Kindergarten, was the day my friend taught me about crayon boxes. She was my first real friend, and my best friend at the time. One day we were coloring, and she let me borrow crayons from her huge 64-count box. I thought they were so cool. My little 24-count box was nothing compared to hers.

As we were coloring, I reached over to put a crayon back in the box. If any of you have ever used crayons, you know that sometimes they don't go back in as easy as they came out, and that sometimes you end up with a huge bulge in the box. Well, that's what happened with this particular crayon.

I kept trying to force back in the box so it would fit, and my friend didn't like that too much, since it was her crayon box. She started throwing a fit and I remember her yelling, "Don't force it!" Then she continued to give me a demonstration on how you push the other crayons out of the way to make room for the other one going back into the box.

As we were growing up, we continued to stay good friends in grade school. I remember always teasing her about it, and she said she never remembered that day really, but I know it really happened, because I think it was the first time she ever yelled at me.

When we entered high school, things started to change, like they most often do. We still talked when we got the chance, but we started to make our own friends. We've stayed in touch, always saying hi in the halls and everything, but we weren't the same best friends we were in Kindergarten.

Just this year, my sophomore year, things really started to change for me. So many different things happened, I felt like I was lost in the world. I didn't know what to do or who I could turn to.

Then one day my friend came to my locker after school because she saw that I had been crying after spending the afternoon in the guidance office. She asked me what was wrong and I knew I could trust her, so I told her everything that was going on in my life. I told her this in a 7 page note and gave it to her in school.

A couple periods later she had stopped me in the halls and gave me a note and told me how she understood and everything. She wrote me and told me how I just need some time for things to get worked out, and that everything will be okay. At the end of the note, she wrote one of the sweetest things anyone has ever said to me. She wrote at the end: "I'll give you the same advice I gave you back when we were in Kindergarten: Don't Force It!"

When I read that it put a smile on my face, the first smile that I had cracked in awhile. I told her that I appreciated the note totally. It's funny that out of all the things people have said to me and tried to help me, those words she wrote in the note were the most inspirational.

It's weird that 10 years later the advice she had given me in kindergarten would help me out so much now. She can't give me a demonstration on how to push things away, like the crayons, but she made me open up my eyes, just like she did when she yelled at me in kindergarten.  --- Permission to reprint --- Jill, Age 16 --- Iowa

"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending."  ~ Maria Robinson

“Life is 10% of what you make it and 90% of how you take it.”

Monday, July 18, 2011

Importance of WATER!

I read an article the other day that really made me realize the importance of water, one of the simple pleasures in life that I take for granted too often. The article was great and made me think of our dependence on water and especially clean water. I also love the reminder of our dependence on the Savior.  Hope you enjoy it! Good night!

"My employment takes me to communities all over the world where people do not have access to clean water. Our group works with local governments and residents to provide maintainable sources of pure, life-sustaining water such as wells and spring or rain captures.
These water projects offer a significant improvement in the quality of life. Health drastically improves because of clean water stops the contraction of typhoid, cholera, and other water-borne diseases. The economy also improves because parents and children who previously spent their time carrying water can now pursue employment and education. Even in communities with numerous and wide-ranging problems, people always say that clean water is what they would like most.
The Savior spent His earthly ministry in a time and place where people relied on well for water. As He taught the woman at the well by saying that "whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst" ( John 4:14) was He also teaching us that His gospel quenches--permanently--our most basic needs? I believe so."
I will always be grateful to a woman in Kenya, Africa, who taught me about the willingness to work to obtain water. I met her at a celebration following the installation of a well in her community. With gratitude she told me that the new well would cut her daily nine-mile trip to get water to a one -mile trip. She was overjoyed at the opportunity that would now be hers."
I couldn't help but think  how I would feel if I had to walk a mile to get water. I was impressed that she put everything--from  housework to gardening--aside while she made her journey to fetch water. She knew she couldn't complete the other tasks without that water. I thought about how heavy her burden was. Carrying water takes strength and endurance. Yet, for the sake of her family, she was willing to walk nine-miles every day to get it.
I wonder if we who get clean water from taps in our homes sometimes expect to come unto Christ with the same ease as turning a knob to get a glass of water. Or are we willing to put aside other tasks, even important ones, to seek to know Jesus Christ and His Father?
I know that the well of living water the Savior offers us never runs dry and is pure and life sustaining. When we come to Him with an empty cup, He will fill it, often beyond our capacity to receive. He is truly living water, a manifestation of the love of God.
  ~ Matthew Heaps
http://lds.org/ensign/2011/07/drink-deeply-of-the-living-water?lang=eng

 

"We turn with hope...to Him who walked the dusty paths of villages we now reverently call the Holy Land, to Him who caused the blind to see, the deaf to hear, the lame to walk, and the dead to live. To Him who tenderly and lovingly assured us, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life'(John 14:6)."  --The New Era, April 1991

"Even though the tasks of life become heavy, and although sorrow thrusts a drooping burden upon us, the light that emanates from our Savior beckons us on, undismayed."  ~Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin

The importance of YOU!

I just loved this essay, it speaks volumes and a great reminder for me ....to believe in myself!
Because there is no one out there quite like me. ( My Mother used to say that very same thing about me, but she said it with a different expression!)

I hope you enjoy it, good night dear friend!

Steps To Happiness  

Author Unknown

Everybody Knows:
You can't be all things to all people.
You can't do all things at once.
You can't do all things equally well.
You can't do all things better than everyone else.
Your humanity is showing just like everyone else's.
So:
You have to find out who you are, and be that.
You have to decide what comes first, and do that.
You have to discover your strengths, and use them.
You have to learn not to compete with others,
Because no one else is in the contest of *being you*.
Then:
You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.
You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.
You will have learned to live with your limitations.
You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due.
And you'll be a most vital mortal.
Dare To Believe:
That you are a wonderful, unique person.
That you are a once-in-all-history event.
That it's more than a right, it's your duty, to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.
And you'll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.

"To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe." -Anatole France

"Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

"To move ahead you need to believe in yourself...have conviction in your beliefs and the confidence to execute those beliefs."   ~Adlin Sinclair

 

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Beautiful day for a wedding!

Not quite a year ago, a dear friend of mine lost her battle with cancer. She was my age and both of us had been survivors at the same time... twice. I have mentioned on more than one occasion how hard it still is for me to see her sweet family or go to their family events. But since I am so close to her daughter I just had to be there for her. I decided that probably it would be best if we just went to the reception, I don't think I could have handled the wedding. My heart still aches for her sweet family. Our friend looked beautiful, she was the perfect bride, I should know we have had a few of them in our family! :) Everyone looked happy except her Grandmother, she was crying most of the time. I tried to talked to her but I just kept tearing up myself. They say that for a Mother to lose a child is one of the toughest heartaches.

When we woke up to rain, I thought of this song as she was getting ready for her wedding. I feel sure that her Mom was close and watching over her and her sweet family. Yes, I believe Heaven is much closer than we think and I am grateful that it is.

I was also grateful to see that the weather cleared up in time for the wedding and reception.

Title: Mark Wills - Holes In The Floor Of Heaven lyrics


One day shy of 8 years old, grandma passed away.
I was a broken hearted little boy, blowin out that birthday cake.
How I cried when the sky let go, with a cold and lonesome rain,
Momma smiled said don't be sad child, grandma's watchin you today.
<Chorous>
Cuz there holes in the floor of heaven and her tears are pourin down
thats how you know she's watchin, wishing she could be here now.
and sometimes if your lonley , just remember she can see,
there's holes in the floor of heaven, and she's watchin over you and me.
Season's come and seasons go, nothing stays the same.
I grew up , fell in love , met a girl who took my name.
Year by Year, made a life in this sleepy little town.
I thought we'd grow old together , lord I sure do miss her now!
<Chrous >
But there's holes in the floor of heaven, and her tears are pourin down.
Thats how I know she's watchin , wishing she could be here now.
And sometimes when i'm lonley, I remember she can see,
there's holes in the floor of heaven, and she's watchin over you and me.
Well my little girl is 23, I walk her down the aisle,
Its a shame her mom can't be here now, to see her lovely smile.
They throw the rice, I catch her eye, As the rain starts comin down.
She takes my hand says daddy don't be sad ,Cuz I know Momma is watchin now.
And there's holes in the floor of heaven, and her tears are pourin down.
thats how you know she's watchin , wishin she could be here now. And sometimes when i'm lonely, I remember she can see,
Yes, there's holes in the floor of heaven , and she's watchin over you and me.
Watchin over you and me
Watchin over you and me
Watchin over you and me.

"A hundred hearts would be too few
To carry all my love for you."
~Author Unknown

"Grow old with me!  The best is yet to be."  ~Robert Browning

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Sleep over at Nana's!

Once a month, Angie comes over to my house for a Sleep Over. It is her time to just be with me and not have to compete with her sister. I gave her and Jenny a suitcase with wheels a while ago,  and they just love packing things into their suitcase and dragging them around. Jenny isn't old enough yet to do a Sleep Over with Nana yet... but it won't be long.

Sunday night was Angie's night to come over, her whole family was already over here for a birthday party for her Dad. About 8:00 pm  she reminded her parents that it was late and that they should probably go home and get Jenny to bed. She is pretty protective of her Sleep Over time.

When they first came over for dinner I told her to just take her suitcase into Lauren's room and we would set it all up after her Mom and Dad left. But just minutes after she arrived, she told me that our room was ready. Here is what I found!

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Her pajamas were laid out with slippers included. She had tomorrow's outfit laid out on the baby bed. She had on the night stand 3 stuffed animals and one toy and blanket. On the bed she laid her scriptures. Her suitcase on the floor was zipped back up and then her favorite pig was on the floor, with a pillow and blanket...yes, this girl gets serious about her Sleep Over at Nana's. I know she is only 5, but I do hope she remembers these special days we have together.

By 9:00 pm she was ready for bed and we did all the nightly routine, song, scriptures, prayers, sip of water and brushing her teeth and then she was ready. She told me not to stay up too long because we had lots to do the next day. At 6:00 am she woke me up and was almost bouncing she said "Nana, wake up it is our Sleep Over Day and we have lots to do, are you ready to go down to the sewing room?" I smiled sleepily, and tried to explain to her that it was too early and that we should go back to bed and sleep some more. Then I reminded her not to wake me up until the clock had a number 9 on it! She did just that, she was just too cute.

How blessed I feel that I live close enough to my grandchildren to play a big part in their lives right now, I know that might not always be the case with all of them, but for sure we are going to have some traditions to hold on to and continue for all of our future grandchildren. ( Not that I am hinting or anything ! :)

Good night dear friends!

"A grandmother is a babysitter who watches the kids instead of the television."  ~Unknown

"Our grandchildren accept us for ourselves, without rebuke or effort to change us, as no one in our entire lives has ever done, not our parents, siblings, spouses, friends - and hardly ever our own grown children."  ~Ruth Goode

"There's no place like home except Nana's!"

"Grandma always made you feel she had been waiting to see just you all day and now the day was complete." ~Marcy DeMaree

Pete and Repeat

When I was a little girl, my grandmother always used the phrase  ...Pete and Repeat!

She would say it when you did the same thing as someone else, like my brother would come in tattling and then I would come in tattling, she would always say..."Here comes Pete and Repeat". I thought about this when I saw my youngest granddaughter holding her phone up to her ear, like her Uncle Lee was doing. It was so cute, she is just at that parrot stage or as Grandma would have said it.. the Pete and Repeat stage. Every day Jenny is coming up with new words that she hears from us then she repeats it a million times, cute to me... but sometimes annoying to her family!

pete and repeat 

Some times I wish we were more like little children...good little listeners and imitating the good we see others do all around us. Yes, those little children are such great teachers!

 

“We are apt to forget that children watch examples better than they listen to preaching.” ~ Roy L. Smith

“To bring up a child in the way he should go, travel that way yourself once in a while.”  ~ Josh Billings

“My father didn’t tell me how to live, he lived, and let me watch him do it.” ~ Clarence Budinton Kelland

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Everyone needs a wise Grandmother like this.

What a sweet story!  "When wisdom comes with age, and is shared with love...it's a wonderful thing!"  ~ Lynn Woodard

GRANDMA'S CAKE BAKING

A little boy is telling his Grandma how "everything" is going wrong: school, family problems, and severe health problems in the family. Meanwhile, Grandma is baking a cake. She asks her grandson if he would like a snack, which of course he does.
"Here, have some cooking oil," she says. "Yuck" says the boy. "Then how about a couple raw eggs?" "Gross, Grandma!" he replies. "Would you prefer some flour then? Or maybe some baking soda?" she asks.
"Grandma, those are all yucky!" he replied. To which Grandma replies: "Yes, all those things seem to taste bad all by themselves. But when they are mixed together in the right amounts and the right manner, they make a delicious cake!"
She continued, "God works the same way. Many times we wonder why he would let us go through such bad and difficult times. But God knows that when He puts these things all in His order, they always work for good! We just have to trust Him and, eventually, they will all make something wonderful!"
"God is crazy about you," says Grandma, "If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it. If He had a wallet, your photo would be in it. He sends you flowers every spring and a sunrise every morning. When you want to talk, He'll listen. He can live anywhere in the universe, and He chose your heart. And what about the Christmas gift He sent you in Bethlehem and that Friday at Calvary? Face it; He's crazy about you."

--- Author Unknown


"Be happy. It's one way of being wise."

"It is as grandmothers that our mothers come into the fullness of their grace"

"A grandparent has the wisdom of long experience and the love of an understanding heart"

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

52 years old and still counting!

Someone asked me today if I am worried about being 52 years old? I just smiled and said  "I am just glad to still be here, the numbers aren't important to me, except that I get to keep adding one more each year. Yes, I was grateful to have another birthday to celebrate with my family. I am grateful that so many of my friends called and sent me birthday wishes. Yes, I have a lot to celebrate on my 52nd birthday today!  I have the opportunity to have another year with my family and friends and I am healthy. I am in less pain than I have been in years, plus I am able to be teaching and working at the Quilt Shop some. So even though I didn't get to  have all of my family around me for my special day (which is the only other wish I had ), Amy and Lee made sure that they had it covered and they did a wonderful job!

Just take a look at these faces...don't they look like they have everything in control?

It was a great day, thanks so much for all your love and wishes, it was a great day!

"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."  ~ Abraham Lincoln

"Old age isn’t so bad when you consider the alternative."

Monday, July 11, 2011

The Stolen Life

My earliest memory was at the age of 5, and I remember with such clarity being abused by my grandfather.The physical abuse continued until I was 11 years old, the verbal and emotional abuse went on until I was married and moved away. I have spoken many times on this blog about being a Survivor, and what that means...in hopes that anyone else out there who has been abused will realize it is not their fault and that they too can survive horrible and tragic experiences. Better than that, they can some day be happy, strong and a better person because what they have overcome.
Tonight as I was getting ready to write my blog, I saw on the headlines of the news that on CBS there was to be an interview with Kaycee Dugard, who was kidnapped as a child and abused and locked up for 18 years from a very sick man and his wife. Now I will tell you right away that we turned our TV off years ago and it has been one of the best decisions, we have more time to talk, more time to read, more time to hang out together but probably one of the best reasons I can think of is...we no longer have garbage coming in our home through the TV. We watch movies that we pick out and to be honest with you, I keep up with the news through the internet and so I am not oblivious to the world events but... I do guard myself from all the terrible stories that are out there.
For some reason tonight I felt impelled to watch the ABC interview with this sweet survivor...Jaycee Dugard. I am not sure why, I usually can't handle things like that, because they trigger some terrible memories that I have. I guess what made me want to watch it, is because this girl has taken something terrible and made it into a stronger and happier her. She never gave up hope and a couple of comments that she and her Mother gave were very touching.
Mother..."“I could hear her crying, not with my ears, but with my heart. I could feel her pain, not with my body, but again with my heart. Completely unbearable and debilitating.”
Jaycee..."It is important to look at what happened to me, to stare it down until it can't scare me any more."
Jaycee..."Survival is your strength ...not  your shame!"

They say that her book, which tells all will be coming out next week called THE STOLEN LIFE, I will not read it because just the 45 mins or so that I saw tonight was more than enough. I just realize how grateful that I am, that I survived, that I have grown enough in wisdom to realize I don't have to live in fear any more. Fear for me or for my children. I used to cry at night when all the kids were little, for fear that there would be no way I could possibly keep all of them safe at all times. I felt like that as their Mother that was my job to protect them, the love that I had for them made me realize that I would do anything to keep them safe. For years I struggled with the fact that I wasn't protected.
But many years, tears, counseling, prayers later, and understanding I realize that I can do all that I can do and ask my Heavenly Father to do the rest. I don't have to carry that unbelievable burden alone, I realized that I never had really been alone, even when I thought no one would ever find out that I was being abused, I never hesitated to pray and ask for strength and courage and hope. I am proud to hear another Survivor speak out, and hopefully help someone else out there. That is exactly what I have been trying to do for 28 years, tell my story and share my testimony of hope, love and survival. Understanding that you are never really alone, is a huge blessing.
Need to now turn off the thoughts in my head from this and head, say my prayers of gratitude that I am who I am today, healthy, happy and safe!   Good night dear friends!

"What do we live for; if it is not to make life less difficult to each other?"  ~T.S. Eliot
"It is never too late to be what you might have been."  ~ George Eliot

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Donating her hair!

My oldest granddaughter Angie got her hair cut this week. She and her Mommy talked about how people donate their hair to children who don't have any. Angie seemed to understand that and she was excited about getting her hair cut. I was wondering if at the last minute she would change her mind, but she didn't.

Here she is before and after! She came to my house right after to show me her hair and the first thing she said to me was " Nana, don't you think some little girl is going to be really excited when she gets my beautiful strawberry blonde hair?" What could I say but "Yes, I am sure she will be really excited and grateful"...I know that I am.

And a little child shall lead thee...

"We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today."  ~Stacia Tauscher

"The world is as many times new as there are children in our lives."  ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com

"Children make you want to start life over."  ~Muhammad Ali

Friday, July 8, 2011

Stuff, Stuff and More Stuff!

Well, it is late and I am so tired that I don't think I should write very much, who knows if I will make any sense. I have been reorganizing my Sewing Room, it isn't a very big room so...you probably wouldn't think it would take someone so long to do that but...you have never seen my stuff! So of course I had to call in the World's Greatest Organizer...my daughter Amy. She is so amazing with taking a room full of STUFF and organizing it in a way that is amazing and functional. I love it even thought it's not quite done. But I am finished for the night, I noticed about a half hour ago that I just took stuff from one box and put it into another box. I didn't sort through it or decide if I wanted it or not; instead I just moved it from one area and then when I looked around, there it was again...just in a different location. I think that is a sign I really needed to stop.

I will try and finish it up tomorrow, I have a lot of sewing to do for work so...I had better get it organized soon. I also found a lot of my quilt tops that are completed but I just haven't quilted them. So I decided that I am not going to buy any more material for myself, until I start knocking out some of these quilts. I have got to make sure that I start finishing these projects before I begin another...what a concept. Good night dear friends!

 

"Quilters aren't greedy, they're just materialistic."

“Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”
~Roman Catholic Saint Francis of Assisi

"When life gives you scraps - make a quilt."

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Yet another road...

Our son Lee, has been suffering from severe muscle cramps. This has been going on for years and we finally thought we had found out what it was. We weren't sure if it was some internally or not. For the past year and half, we have been in and out of the Doctor's office, Emergency room, Specialist's office, Chiropractor and Hospital for CT scans, X-rays and Ultrasounds. All of which haven't really given us specific solutions.
I wrote on Mother's Day that we thought we had finally got a diagnosis...Psoas Muscle Spasms, we were thrilled to at least find out what it was and go forward. The problem is, although it looked for sure that this was our problem and an easy fix...2 months later, we are realizing, the attacks aren't going away and we still are not sure what is causing them.

Two weeks ago, Lee went to a church youth camp for 3 days. During that time, he had 3 attacks, 2 small ones and 1 big attack. The doctor and nurse that were there, witnessed them and promptly told Jeff and I that they did not think this was muscle attacks that Lee was having and suggested that we take him in for further testing right away.

Am I scared? YES! I am struggling with the NOT KNOWING what it is, so once again we are going down another road in search for the right answers. It has been hard on Lee, he has not been able to get a job because of this and many other areas of his life are restricted and have been put on hold, until we get this figured out. He is more frustrated than scared, I am glad about that. I pray that soon we will find the right answer and more importantly...be able to find a cure for this. It is hard watching your child suffer. I would rather it be me any day, but that is not how life works.

So we will continue going down road after road, until we finally find the right answer...please keep us in your prayers, we could sure use them.

"I know not what the future holds, but I know who holds the future."  ~Author Unknown

"It is only when we silent the blaring sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts."  ~K.T. Jong

Smile!

A smile, so simple...so important!

BEHIND A SMILE

Do you ever wonder what people are feeling when they smile? Do they smile because they're happy or do they smile because they want people to believe they're happy? Maybe they smile because they want you to smile and be happy.
A smile can touch a person's life in ways you can never imagine. It's infectious and can cause a chain reaction. It can be memorable to someone you pass on the street or the mall or driving... and it only takes a split second to smile and forget, yet... to someone that needed it, it can last a lifetime. Maybe I should smile more often.

--- Written in 2003 by Delilah B.

"Today, give a stranger one of your smiles.  It might be the only sunshine he sees all day."  ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

"The world always looks brighter from behind a smile."  ~Author Unknown

"A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks."  ~Charles Gordy

Monday, July 4, 2011

Happy 4th of July!!!

Just finished a BBQ with some neighbors and friends. What a beautiful day it has been. Full sunshine and in the 70's ...perfect! Now it is getting dark and Angie is waiting for Nana to come out and watch the fireworks with her. You can see so many good ones right from our deck! Hope you have a wonderful 4th of July and like me are grateful for this wonderful country we live in.

Ok, gotta go it is time to see booming fireworks...good night dear friends!

"The liberties of our country, the freedom of our civil constitution, are worth defending at all hazards; . . . . We have received them as a fair inheritance from our worthy ancestors . . . [they] transmitted them to us with care and diligence."
Samuel Adams

"Under the law of nature, all men are born free, every one comes into the world with a right to his own person, which includes the liberty of moving and using it at his own will. This is what is called personal liberty, and is given him by the Author."  ~ Thomas Jefferson

"Those who expect to reap the blessings of freedom, must, like men, undergo the fatigue of supporting it." - Thomas Paine

"Where liberty dwells, there is my country." - Benjamin Franklin

What kind of legacy are you leaving?

Today in church, one of the teachers spoke of LEGACY, and asked  us what type of legacy we are leaving for our children and their children. It was an incredible lesson on the importance of learning and growing from the obstacles that come in our lives. Each one of them is to teach us something.

Then stories were read from some of the pioneers and what their trials and tribulations taught them in their life. Here is a poem that was written about the pioneers.

                They cut desire into short lengths
                And fed it to the hungry fire of courage.
                Long after -when the flames died -
                Molten gold gleamed in the ashes.
                They gathered it into bruised palms
                And handed it to their children
                And their children’s children.  ~ Vilate Chamberlain Raile

This poem reminds me of the scripture in 1st Peter 1:7 "That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire....

I think that is so true, just like the poem talked about the experiences that we have that are from trials and problems, if we learn and grow from them, if we stay hopeful and rely on the Lord, if we don't give up but keep going...that is the GOLD that we are going to pass down to our children and our children's children.
We have talked about this subject often in our home during some of the trials that we have gone through. I have asked myself as a Mother, have I taught the kids to be strong, courageous and faithful? Have I taught them to rely on the Lord for strength, courage and hope? Do they know that no matter what happens to them in life ...that they can handle it ( with the Lord's help) ?

Life is hard and I personally know that some times things look too BIG for me to handle, I cry and get scared, I get discouraged and doubtful. I know my kids have seen me go through these feelings, but the real question is...will they remember that I got back up, said my prayers, asked our Savior to help me carry my burdens; and did I show them that I was stronger and better because of what I learned along the way? I pray that I have and that I will continue to do so.
It was a great lesson for our family today.
Good night dear friends!

 

"The choices we make about the lives we live determine the kinds of legacies we leave."  ~ Tavis Smiley 

"Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow." ~Anonymous

“We know that women who have deep appreciation for the past will be concerned about shaping a righteous future.”  ~ Spencer W. Kimball

Friday, July 1, 2011

Christmas in July!

It is hard to believe that July is already here. Today I was able to teach at the Quilt Shop and of course...we did Christmas in July, I taught how to make these cute stockings. It reminds that I need to start preparing for Christmas now, so that I don't have to make the holidays so rushed.

I am surprised how much faster these past year has gone by, probably because I was starting to have my health back, and able to start working some at the Quilt Shop. I love teaching again, I have taught art classes for years, I love having the chance to meet soooo many incredible women and share my love for quilting. I think my Grandmother and Aunt would have be so excited for me. They are the ones who helped me develop these talents, when I was just a little girl.

Most of all, I am just grateful to be here and feeling good enough to do things that I love, with the people I love ! That is no small thing!   Good night dear friends.

 

"Time is free, but it's priceless. You can't own it, but you can use it. You can't keep it, but you can spend it. Once you've lost it you can never get it back."  ~ Harvey MacKay

"Difficult times have helped me to understand better than before, how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way, and that so many thing that one goes worrying about are of no importance whatsoever..."   ~ Isak Dinesen

" Somehow, not only for Christmas but all the long year through, the joy that you give to others is the joy that comes back to you. And the more you spend in blessing the poor and lonely and sad, the more of your heart's possessing returns to you glad."  ~ John Greenleaf

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Faith vs. Doubt

Read this short poem and thought it was worth sharing. I personally know that it is vital that we choose Faith over fear and doubt. Faith is a happier, more content place to me. It takes a lot, to decide to choose Faith first, I know because I have had to make that struggle and choice... over and over in my life. It seems like such a small thing but believe me it isn't, but... it is worth it!

Good night dear friends!

Faith vs. Doubt
Doubt sees the obstacles.
Faith sees the way.
Doubt sees the darkest night.
Faith sees the day.
Doubt dreads to take a step.
Faith soars on high.
Doubt questions "Who believes"?
Faith answers "I".
--- William (Harvey) Jett

"Nothing in life is to be feared.  It is only to be understood."  ~Marie Curie

"To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom."  ~Bertrand Russell

"He has not learned the lesson of life who does not every day surmount a fear. " ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

"Nana, are you old?"

My granddaughter and I were walking in the store yesterday and as we were holding hands, she reached up and rubbed my hand and said " Nana, are you old?" I was a bit confused and took a quick look at my hand and said " no, do I look old (as I was staring at my hand?") Her reply again was "Nana, are you old?" I then said "well, I am a little bit old but why do you ask?" Her question next was "Nana, are you going to get old? " Then I was a bit more confused and asked her what she meant.

(just a little background real quick...John's grandmother died last week, and so they have been talking alot about it at home )

Then came her reply "Grandma Dee, got old" I began to choke up and said "Well, I am trying real hard not to get old". She looked me right in the eye and replied " Nana, there are alot of things we still need to do together". I tried to just smile instead of cry. Then I finally composed myself and said, "Yes, we have alot of things we still need to do together, what are some of them?" Her little face got brighter and she began to list off all the things we want to do together.

Death is a tough concept for us adults, I am glad I asked her why, about some of those questions. Now I realize that in her sweet little 5 year old mind, she was trying to process her Grandma Dee dying and what was going to happen to me ...her Nana! How I wish I could have grabbed her up in my arms and promised her that I would never get old or leave her, and that we would have many, many years together...but first of all, she is way too big for me to pick up :)  and second of all, none of us know that for sure...so I just gave her hand a squeeze and told her how much I loved her. And silently to myself, I promised that I will make the most of every day I have with her and her sister and all my loved ones!

So on that note, let me say thank you for being such an important part of my life. How I wish I could spend a whole day with each one of you, and personally let you know what you mean to me in my life. I am truly blessed to have such wonderful family and friends!   Have a good night.

"One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure its worth watching."

"Every man dies- Not every man really lives."  ~ William Ross Wallace

"A grandchild fills a space in your heart that you never knew was empty" 

 

Still my boy!

Our youngest son Lee as you know, graduated last week. He is 18 years old and soon he will be heading off to college, that seems so weird that he is our last one to leave home. The Empty Nest Stage is quickly approaching and I am NOT READY for it! But like anything else in life, ready or not here ...it comes!  Life just keeps happening.

Lee was asked to help coach at a Basketball Camp this whole week, he was more than excited to go. He loves playing ball, he has since he was a little kid. Ball was even his first word! Anyway, last night as we were discussing his trip and if he had every thing he needed, he asked me if I was going to write those cards again. I didn't know what he meant at first and then he explained ..."You know the cards that you wrote one for every day, last year when I went to camp?" I did remember and was thrilled that he liked it and wasn't embarrassed that his Mom was writing him a card, scripture and quote for each day. He really want them again! It did my heart good to hear that. You never know when the things you do... are truly appreciated or if the things you are teaching ...really are sinking in! Yeah, that was great treat for me to hear!

So I guess even though he is 6 ft and 18 years old, he is still my boy. It is a neat feeling as a Mom, when  you know that your grown children still need you in some ways! I just love being their MOM!
Good night dear friends!

"Son, you outgrew my lap, but never my heart."  ~Author Unknown

"You don't raise heroes, you raise sons.  And if you treat them like sons, they'll turn out to be heroes, even if it's just in your own eyes."  ~Walter M. Schirra, Sr.

Monday, June 27, 2011

Nightmares!

One of the side effects of having cancer is the fear that comes with it. There are days and even weeks and months that I am not really effected by it. But then something will trigger those Bigger Than Me Days of fear, and those are tough days. I had one ( ok, maybe 2 or 3  ) of those a month ago when I was feeling so tired and weak. The fatigue was terrible and my mind went to a bad place. I tried to write about it because I think that it is very important to let other survivors know, what is normal or at least happens to other survivors. It took me over a week to really get out of that bad place. The What Ifs came too, and so it took a lot of work and effort to change where I was.

Finally I did and have been grateful ever since that I don't feel like running and looking over my shoulder all the time, wondering when or if cancer is going to return. But I had a bit of a relapse the other night. I have been having some swelling in my arm from not having many lymph nodes after my surgery. Some times if the swelling gets bad, my arm aches and lately that seems to be happening a lot. When I went to bed that night, I woke up a few times in the middle in a bad dream. Each time I woke up, I could feel my arm just throbbing and then I would go back to sleep and be right back in the same dream. The dream was, my arm was aching and so we went to the DR. and he said that I had Stage 4 bone cancer, I was devastated, then I would wake up and realize it was only a dream ( nightmare to be a matter of fact ) and how grateful I was that it was only that. Finally I decided to get up because I did not want to go back into that dream again.

So sometimes even when you think your head is in the right place, your sub-conscience brings those fears back to you. Yes, the side effects of cancer can be scary but manageable IF you work at it each day! With that said, I am tired... my arm is still aching and now I am wondering if I really want to go to bed tonight or not? Guess I will anyway, good night dear friends!

P.S. Maybe what I should do, is go get one of my RECNAC MONSTERS, they really do help!

"Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing."

"There is much in the world to make us afraid.  There is much more in our faith to make us unafraid."  ~Frederick W. Cropp


"There are very few monsters who warrant the fear we have of them."  ~Andre Gide

Sunday, June 26, 2011

What a great day!

   Today was a great day, I was wondering why that was? Maybe because we had sunshine...which we haven't seen a lot of this summer. Maybe because it was the Sabbath?  I love stopping all the regular things that I do every day, and really enjoy and honor the Sabbath. I like getting spiritually refueled, or taking time to recharge my spiritual batteries.
   
I notice that I am not very good at  working outside of my home, and taking care of my home and the essentials like I should. I know there are many woman out there that can do work and home quite well but...that has never been me. I worked all week at the Quilt Shop for the Shop Hop and like I said before and I loved it! But at the same time, my housework, food, meals, exercise and personal study were jeopardized. I didn't take time to send out the cards that I wanted to, or spend the time with family and friends like I should. So there once again I was reminded to find balance in my life. Keep my priorities for myself and my family. I like doing the thing that I love ...like creating, but I realize when I pay attention to my exercise, scriptures, and prayers that I am way more balanced and productive when I put first things first. So at the ripe age of 51 and 3/4...I am still learning!
   Another thing that I read today, that has caused me to think again about my choices in life was an article. In  there was a few comments about  how very much God wants to help us over obstacles in our life. He gave this quote... "He wants to speak to us. He speaks to us in the ways that we can hear only with our heart. To better hear His voice, it would be wise to turn down the volume control of the worldly noise in our lives. If we ignore or block out the prompting's of the Spirit for whatever reason, they become less noticeable until we cannot hear them at all."  ~ Dieter F. Uchtdorf
  
I realized that lately it has been easier to turn on the computer than open my scriptures. Easier to watch a movie than go visit a friend. Focus on me, instead of others. I have got to turn off the computer more. To many of you that know me, you might laugh ...because I am not on the computer that often but...I am on it more than I have even been. It is so easy to just check my email, search a few blogs or web sites and to check on Face book to see what is going on. I am thinking that I need to spend less time on here and really take the time to have things more quite in my life so...I truly can listen to what the Lord wants me to do. In the past when I have been more attentive at doing that, life really seemed a lot smoother. Other wise, I sorta feel like I am trying to shoot an arrow in the dark. I have goals or a target that I want to hit , but when I am so busy and going at such a fast  pace, then I feel a bit left out in the dark and that is when I realize it is time for me to re-evaluate once again. Who said you had to wait till the New Year to set goals?
I hope you had a wonderful Sunday too! Good night dear friends!

 

"The goal you set must be challenging. At the same time, it should be realistic and attainable, not impossible to reach. It should be challenging enough to make you stretch, but not so far that you break." Rick Hansen

"Action expresses priorities." ~ Mohandas Gandhi  

"Good things happen when you get your priorities straight."  ~ Scott Caan

"We are not human beings on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a human journey."  ~ Stephen R. Covey  

You know you are too old to be a parent when.....

Our son came home the other night with a concussion. He had gotten hit in the face with an elbow, while playing Fresbie in the park with some friends. It worried us because he has been in the hospital a couple of times the past year with concussions. Since we have done it so many times, we decided to wait and see how he was doing. We checked his eyes and had him put ice on his head and stay low for awhile. It was very late and he did not want to go to the Emergency room. So we did all the things we needed to do and just made sure to keep him awake, until the dizziness went away.

Jeff gets up early so he finally went to bed around midnight, so I was on duty to keep him awake at least another hour and then get up every couple of hours and wake him up. Well by 1:00 am, I was barely awake and trying desperately to keep him awake too. Finally at 1:00 we set his clock for 2:00am and I told him to make sure to wake up enough to check how he feels, then reset the clock for another hour. I kept thinking that I should be the one setting the clock every hour but I was sooooooooooo tired, and I also had to work again the next day. So I convinced myself that since he was 18 and would be away at college soon, he would have to learn to do these things anyway.
He agreed, then I said ( as I was walking out the door to my room ) and "son, if you don't wake up, then come and get me...because something might be very wrong! " As I got down the hall, I heard him laugh and then he said " Mom, do you realize what you just said?" We both began to laugh and I realized that it is a good thing he is almost grown, because I am getting to old for this parenting stuff. Some of the time when he talks to Jeff and I, we can't even hear him and have to keep asking "what did  you say?"  Growing old is harder than it looks. Yes, it is important to have your children while you are young...for this very reason. With age does come wisdom, but sometimes it comes slowly, if it comes at all!  You may be still laughing but it's true! :)

Now if there are any Doctor or nurses out there reading this, please just ignore you ever read this! :)

Good night dear friends!

"One thing they never tell you about child raising is that for the rest of your life, at the drop of a hat, you are expected to know your child's name and how old he or she is."  ~ Erma Bombeck

"The beauty of spacing children many years apart lies in the fact that parents have time to learn the mistakes that were made with the older ones - which permits them to make exactly the opposite mistakes with the younger ones."  ~Sydney J. Harris

"You know you are getting old when.. It takes twice as long to look half as good."

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Happy Anniversary to Me!

Today is Jeff and I's anniversary...29 years ago today, we got married in Washington,D.C. It is so hard to imagine where we would be in 29 years, and what would be going on with our lives. I had prayed that we would be able to have a big family, and we were blessed with 4 healthy and happy kids. I always wanted to be a stay home Mom and be with the kids, and I was also blessed to do that. Two of our kids are married now, and we have an incredible son-in-law and daughter-in-law, plus two fun and sweet granddaughters. Yes, I believe our life has been even better than we imagined. As I look at our wedding photo today ( yes that is really us ), I remember how excited we were to finally start our life together, we had dated off and on for four years. We had no idea all the ups and downs we would have to face but...here we are still together and thankful for it.

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I found this sweet story and thought it was the perfect Anniversary story, especially since I am a survivor. Good night dear friends!

S.H.M.I.L.Y.

My grandparents were married for over half a century, and played their own special game from the time they had met each other. The goal of their game was to write the word "shmily" in a surprise place for the other to find.
They took turns leaving "shmily" around the house, and as soon as one of them discovered it, it was their turn to hid it once more. They dragged "shmily" with their fingers through the sugar and flour containers to await whoever was preparing the next meal. They smeared it in the dew on the windows overlooking the patio where my grandma always fed us warm, homemade pudding with blue food coloring.
"Shmily" was written in the steam left on the mirror after a hot shower, where it would reappear bath after bath. At one point, my grandmother even unrolled and entire roll of toilet paper to leave "shmily" on the very last sheet. There was no end to the places "shmily" would pop up.
Little notes with"shmily" scribbled hurriedly were found on dashboards and car seats, or taped to steering wheels. The notes were stuffed inside shoes and left under pillows. "Shmily" was written in the dust upon the mantel and traced in the ashes of the fireplace.
This mysterious word was as much a part of my grandparents' house as the furniture. It took me a long time before I was able to fully appreciate my grandparents' game. Skepticism has kept me from believing in true love-one that is pure and enduring.
However, I never doubted my grandparents' relationship. They had love down pat. It was more than their flirtatious little games: it was a way of life. Their relationship was based on a devotion and passionate affection which not everyone is lucky to experience.
Grandma and Grandpa held hands every chance they could. They stole kisses as they bumped into each other in their tiny kitchen. They finished each other's sentences and shared the daily crossword puzzle and word jumble. My grandma whispered to me about how cute my grandpa was, how handsome and old he had grown to be. She claimed that she really knew "how to pick em."
Before every meal they bowed their heads and gave thanks, marveling at their blessings: a wonderful family, good fortune, and each other. But there was a dark cloud in my grandparents' life: my grandmother had breast cancer. The disease had first appeared ten years earlier. As always, Grandpa was with her every step of the way.
He comforted her in their yellow room, painted that way so that she could always be surrounded by sunshine, even when she was too sick to go outside. Now the cancer was again attacking her body.
With the help of a cane and my grandfather's steady hand, they went to church every morning. But my grandmother grew steadily weaker until, finally, she could not leave the house anymore. For a while, Grandpa would go to church alone, praying to God to watch over his wife. Then one day, what we all dreaded finally happened. Grandma was gone.
"Shmily." It was scrawled in yellow on the pink ribbons of my grandmother's funeral bouquet. As the crowd thinned and the last mourners turned to leave , my aunts, uncles, cousins and other family members came forward and gathered around Grandma one last time.
Grandpa stepped up to my grandmother's casket and, taking a shaky breath, he began to sing to her. Through his tears and grief, the song came, a deep and throaty lullaby. Shaking with my own sorrow, I will never forget that moment. For I knew that, although I couldn't begin to fathom the depth of their love, I had been privileged to witness its unmatched beauty.
S-h-m-i-l-y: See How Much I Love You! Thank you, Grandma and Grandpa, for letting me see.

~Laura Jeanne Allen

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person”  ~ Mignon McLaughlin

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”  ~ Lao Tzu

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

People Watching!

   Today I got to work at the Quilt Shop for the Shop Hop. I have to admit, I was so excited to go into work! I could hardly wait to get there, and had a hard time leaving when I was suppose to. I love to watch and meet people! I love PEOPLE! There is always an interesting story in their life that is playing out in their attitudes, personalities, clothing and so on. I have to admit that most people are as nice as you are to them. I was the one of the ladies who stamped their passport ( that is all Quilt/Shop Hop lingo, in case you are wondering) and gave them their free block. It was fun to have them ask about the block, and to be able to say it was mine. Then I was able to tell them step by step how I made it. They really seemed to like my block, I am so glad. When I first thought about doing a block to see if might be chosen... I was a nervous wreak. So many of the women there are amazing seamstresses and they have been quilting for years, my stuff seems so elementary compared to them. But I have learned that everyone has different talents and styles. And basically we all enjoy and appreciate each others styles and talents.

   It has been a blessing to be able to not only watch, but meet so many incredible women and even some of their families. It was also great to talk to many of them and hear about their struggles in their own life. The truth is...everyone is going through something. And those experiences and struggles are truly what shape our lives, and make us who we are. I have learned to try and not judge so quickly, because if you haven't walked in their shoes, lived their life...then we really don't know exactly what they have been through!
    Yes, it was a good day!  I can hardly wait to go tomorrow...except I a so tired! Oh well, I will head to bed soon. Good night dear friends!

"Our greatest strength as a human race is our ability to acknowledge our differences, our greatest weakness is our failure to embrace them."  ~ Judith Henderson

"Opposition is nothing more than truth; though hard that truth maybe be, it is essentially beneficial to one's self. In life your greatest enemies are in reality your greatest benefactors. Learn from them; opposition only makes you stronger and more capable."

"We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path."                    ~ Paulo Coelho

"I know there is strength in the differences between us. I know there is comfort where we overlap."  ~Ani Difranco

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

A quilt and and pillow

    I loved this cute story, one because it shows the compassion and love of a child. Plus, it shows how important quilts are to people. When I was in the Quilt Shop the other day, I got to see all the amazing quilts that were donated for the survivors in Joplin, MO. They were beautiful and there were hundreds and thousands of hours that these quitters put into each quilt. What a gift of love!
   Sorta reminded me of this . We don't have to do much, but we should do something!

   Need to head to bed, the Shop Hop begins at our Quilt Shop tomorrow, and I am working a few hours!
   I am excited and hope that my body holds up with me! :)

   Good night dear friends!

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A Pillow And A Blanket

A long time ago, a young, wealthy girl was getting ready for bed. She was saying her prayers when she heard a muffled crying coming through her window. A little frightened, she went over to the window and leaned out.
Another girl, who seemed to be about her age and homeless was standing in the alley by the rich girl's house. Her heart went out to the homeless girl, for it was the dead of winter, and the girl had no blanket, only old newspapers someone had thrown out. The rich girl was suddenly struck with a brilliant idea. She called to the other girl and said, "You there, come to my front door, please."
The homeless girl was so startled she could only manage to nod.
As quick as her legs could take her, the young girl ran down the hall to her mothers closet, and picked out an old quilt and a beat up pillow. She had to walk slower down to the front door as to not trip over the quilt which was hanging down, but she made it eventually.
Dropping both the articles, she opened the door. Standing there was the homeless girl, looking quite scared. The rich girl smiled warmly and handed both articles to the other girl. Her smile grew wider as she watched the true amazement and happiness alight upon the other girl's face. She went to bed incredibly satisfied.
In mid-morning the next day a knock came to the door. The rich girl flew to the door hoping that it was the other little girl there. She opened the large door and looked outside. It was the other little girl. Her face looked happy, and she smiled. "I suppose you want these back."
The rich little girl opened her mouth to say that she could keep them when another idea popped into her head. "No, I want them back."
The homeless girl's face fell. This was obviously not the answer she had hoped for. She reluctantly laid down the beat up things, and turned to leave when the rich girl yelled, "Wait! Stay right there."
She turned in time to see the rich girl running up the stairs and down a long corridor. Deciding whatever the rich little girl was doing wasn't worth waiting for she started to turn around and walk away. As her foot hit the first step, she felt someone tap her on the shoulder, turning she saw the rich little girl, thrusting a new blanket and pillow at her. "Have these." she said quietly.
These were her own personal belonging made of silk and down feathers.
As the two grew older they didn't see each other much, but they were never far from each other's minds. One day, the Rich girl, who was now a Rich woman got a telephone call from someone. A lawyer, saying that she was requested to see him.
When she arrived at the office, he told her what had happened. Forty years ago, when she was nine years old, she had helped a little girl in need. That grew into a middle-class woman with a husband and two children. She had recently died and left something for her in her will. "Though," the lawyer said, "it's the most peculiar thing. She left you a pillow and a blanket."
--- Author Unknown

"America is hope. It is compassion. It is excellence. It is valor."  ~ Paul Tsongas

"And as I've gotten older, I've had more of a tendency to look for people who live by kindness, tolerance, compassion, a gentler way of looking at things."   ~ Martin Scorsese

"Those who sleep under a quilt, sleep under a blanket of love!"

It's a boy!

Today dear friends of ours, had their baby boy! How excited we are that he made it here safe and sound. It made me remember what we felt like when we had Brad. Our first was Amy and so to have a boy was different and exciting. This poem below (that someone wrote for their son), describes little boys pretty well. Congratulations to our dear friends, who we know will love this little boy and who will be incredible parents!!!
WHAT IS A BOY?

A little boy is like the sun.
The warmth of his smile lights up your day.
He rises in the morning, foggy from sleep,
And as the sun's rays become stronger,
So your day becomes brighter with his presence.
He is like the last ray of sun in the evening,
Reaching out to grasp the day and hold onto it.
Bedtime comes too soon for little boys.
A little boy is like the rain.
His love is showered upon you in so many ways.
A bouquet of crushed Dandelions is presented to you like precious Roses.
A shiny rock becomes a jewel in your eyes because a little boy says,
"Isn't it beautiful Mommy?"
And two small brown arms encircling your neck
And a small voice whispering, "I love you",
Becomes a highlight in your day.
A little boy is like the earth.
Sometimes soft as the sugar sand at the beach, easily penetrated.
Sometimes hard as soil untilled, belligerent
And bossy with a mind of his own.
A little boy is like the wind.
Boisterous and full of mischief as the wind before the rain.
Gentle, as the soft breath of a spring breeze.
Soft and warm as the wind wafted in summer
And tough and blustery as the stormy winds of winter.
Roll sun, wind, earth, and rain into one form and that form will be a boy.
A gift from God.   ~Carol Bouche' Ottlinger

"A child fills a place in your heart that you never knew was empty"

"A perfect summer day to a little boy means, a scrape on the knee, mud on his face and collecting bugs in garden."

"I am a child of God"