Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Suggestions to help make this the best New Year ever!

Well, I am still struggling with this Empty Nest syndrome. I know it’s going to get better, but still my heart just aches if I am by myself at all. I have even lost ( to some degree ) my creativity…that sounds almost impossible, but I have. I just come down to my sewing room and instead of making project after project, I just sit here  and do nothing.  I have got to get on top of this feeling. I know it hasn’t been that long but gee, this has been harder than I imagined. So tonight instead of sharing my half empty thoughts with you, I am going to share with you an article I read about making this the best New Year Ever! Some of the questions I don’t really relate to, I guess every one will relate or need some of them. But they do make you think.

Good night dear friends!


First ask yourself these questions to figure out what’s working , reject what’s not, and move toward your best decade yet.

1. Does the way you spend your time reflect what’s important to you?

Make a list of your top 5 priorities—marriage, children, volunteer work, and so on – and track how many hours you devote to each in a week. If any numbers are too low, recalculate your time budget so you can live according to who you want to be.

2. Does your Blackberry get more attention then your family and friends?

Resolve to switch off your gadgets during private moments so you can nourish personal connections with complete focus.

3. Are you nursing a grudge or two?

Let bygones be bygones, and free yourself from the emotions that weigh you down.

4. Who should be in your life?

Phase out any so-called friends who offer only criticism and negative energy. Surround yourself with people who you admire, who believe in you and want you to succeed.

5.Have you typecast yourself?

You may cherish your responsibilities  as a Mother, but “ Mom” is not the whole of who you are. Ask yourself if one role is draining all your energy, leaving other expressions of your authentic self unfulfilled.

6. What battle are you fighting?

Is your husband really the one who’s letting you down, or are you blaming him for the pain of a past relationship? Are  you doing what’s best for your kids, or are you parenting with a chip on your shoulder left over from your own childhood? Remember:  You are not a prisoner of your legacy.

7. How can you live greener?

Can you swap your gas guzzler for public transportation? Trade plastic bottles for a thermos? Go meatless for a week? Pinpoint changes you can make now.

8. What are your goals?

Define specific goals with measurable outcomes and assign yourself a timeline. Passion and will power alone won’t cut it – you need a strategy.

9. Who is standing in your way?

The answer may be you . Reject self-loathing and treat yourself with the kindness and respect you would show your best friend.

10. What one thing can you do for yourself every day?

It could be as simple as finding 20 minutes to take a bath. Every day is a new opportunity to pay attention to your own needs and make choices you feel good about. This decade, claim the right to minister to yourself.

~ Phillip C. McGraw, PhD


“Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there”
- Will Rogers

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we took so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened up for us”
- Helen Keller

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
- Dr Wayne Dyer

“Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.”
- Muhammad Ali

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