Tuesday, December 29, 2009

What color of glasses are you looking through?

Before I start, I wanted to let you know that my blog should be fine and up and running now. We had some technical difficulty and I think we had about five posts that couldn't be read. All of them should be available now. Thanks for your patience and for my dear friend that helped figure it out!

A dear friend sent me this quote today and I thought it was very thought provoking, it goes like this...

"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!"

It makes you stop and think, but more important than focusing on the person fighting and struggling, it made me think of how each of us have our own things that we have to work on or learn from in this life. I used to say that I am fighting to keep my body from getting cancer again. I realized by saying that, I am giving cancer way too much power. Instead of looking over my shoulder every minute worried and scared, I instead need to focus on staying as healthy and grounded as I can, so that my body and immune system stay strong. The greatest tools we can ever have is...faith, peace and happiness. Confidence that if we do all that we can to stay healthy and strong, we will be able to handle whatever comes our way.

Adversity although, it is never really popular or sought after, is however an incredible teacher and one of the things it has made me do, is look at others with a different color glasses Instead of the color judgmental.... I know see through the color ....compassion, you get my point?  When I see a mom struggling or fighting with her child at the store, I now remember some of my toughest days with my 4 little ones and realized, I have been there or could have been there. When I hear about a person who seems to always be sick, in the past I would wonder if they are really sick or just think they are. I now realize that being sick a lot, is not usually a choice most people want to make and looking from the outside in ...you could say the very same thing about me and my life. I used to look at people who still have their Christmas lights up in February and wondered why they were being so lazy that they couldn't take them down?  That's just plain tacky. However when I was diagnosed with my first cancer in December 2001, we were so involved with that tragedy hitting our family, that we didn't take Christmas decorations down until April. Now I look at lights up that long and wonder if someone in there home is too sick or too worried to think about them. Yes perspective is a wonderful thing!

We all need to stop and check the color of glasses that we are looking through. The other vital thing we need to remember is this quote...

"We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are."  ~ Talmud

I think this is important because there will be times when what we think and what we see, may not really be reality, all I am saying is to stay open, listen to what your heart and gut say, take in consideration that maybe your perception of something could be wrong. Life is hard and it it totally about learning and growing. I hope we all will stop and try to see life through the right glasses at the right time. Be open to change. Be willing to be an OBSERVER SELF, we all can get stuck and in habits that aren't healthy. Remember change is good.

Thanks for your continued friendship and helping me to remember to check my glasses often!  Good night!

"I've learned that two people can look at the same thing and see something totally different."

"I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become."

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