Sunday, September 18, 2011

Date Night by myself!



Well, in all of our 29 years of marriage, Jeff and I haven’t missed too many Date Nights. We held them as high priority and to tell you the truth, we both could hardly wait till Friday night, especially when the kids were little.

We have been redoing some of the floors and walls in our house, and so we put off our Friday night date this week to Saturday night. the bad news is that Jeff wasn’t feeling good by last night and so I decided to go out by myself. At the time it seemed like a good idea, but as the night wore on, I was thinking otherwise. I first went to the store where I needed to pick something up and then I went and got dinner….yes ….all by myself. It is interesting sitting alone, I didn’t quite know what to do with myself…mostly I just watched the people who were around me eating. One family had two little kids and the Mother kept asking her little boy (who was eating a slice of pizza ) if he wanted a piece of broccoli. She asked him several times and he without even looking at her, kept saying ‘No’. I was amazed at how many times the Mother kept asking him, it reminded me that I am not the only Mother who keeps asking about healthy options ….OVER AND OVER AGAIN!  Smile

Next, I had to go into a fabric store to buy a piece of Halloween fabric to make something for a friend. While I was in there, the lady who was cutting my fabric asked me if I had read in the news about the rabid bat that was in one of their other fabric stores ( not in this area )? I just laughed and asked “ did anyone get bit?” Her response was she didn’t think so, then I couldn’t help but think… wouldn’t that be an awful if I had been at that store and got bit by a rabid bat while buying Halloween fabric?  I could see the head lines now…. TWO TIME BREAST CANCER SURVIVOR DIES, NOT FROM CANCER BUT FROM A RABID BAT BITE WHILE SHOPPING FOR HALLOWEEN FABRIC! Smile I am not sure why that struck me funny but it did. Some times my sense of humor even scares me!

The rest of my date, I realized how blessed I am to still have my best friend and husband  here with me. A dear friend of mine last year, lost her husband and she told me how hard it has been trying to get used to being Alone all the time. One comment she said was… “ For the longest time I didn’t know where I belonged, I mean everyone else has their lives going on and now I didn’t know where to go or what to do”. I realize now that as Jeff and I get older that we need to be grateful for every day that we get to be together. I just soooooooooooooo appreciated him and what a great friend and support he has been to me throughout the years. I also had a new appreciation for those of my friends who are single, they must be incredibly strong. I admire them and thought how I need to keep them in my thoughts and prayers. Too often we take for granted things that we have always had. Now that we are getting older, I guess I think of those type of things. So I came home and gave Jeff an extra hug, and said a little prayer of thanks for still having each other.

So I guess the Date Night for myself wasn’t too bad, especially if it made me more appreciative of what I have, that is no small thing!

Good night dear friends!


“It is far more difficult to be of one heart and mind than to be physically one. This unity of heart and mind is manifest in sincere expressions of ‘I appreciate you’ and ‘I am proud of you.’ Such domestic harmony results from forgiving and forgetting, essential elements of a maturing marriage relationship. Someone has said that we ‘should keep [our] eyes wide open before marriage, and half shut afterward’ (Magdeleine Scudéry, in John P. Bradley and others, comps., The International Dictionary of Thoughts [1969], 472). True charity ought to begin in marriage, for it is a relationship that must be rebuilt every day.”  ~ James E. Faust 2004

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