I have wondered many times why people say hurtful things. Don't they know that they are hurting someone's feeling? Do they care? I guess the answers could be many. Maybe they don't care, maybe they just don't think before speaking, maybe they don't realize how harsh their words are or maybe that is the way they were brought up?
No matter what, there will be times in all of our lives they someone says something that really hurts our feelings. I am learning in my OLD AGE, to try to ask some of those questions before I take offense. I still get my feelings hurt; probably more than the average person, but I am trying to learn and grow from the experience. I try to first ask myself if their is any truth in their comment? Sometimes there is... sometimes not. But I do realize that I try to distance myself from people who seem to constantly put me down or make fun of me. No one likes that feeling, and so I need to protect myself. Life is certainly a growing experience isn't it?
I also try more often to think about what I say. Did I say it the way I really meant it? Did I use the right or wrong tone? Do I come across harsh at times? Yes, I continue to learn and try hard, not to get too upset but try and learn and grow from each of these experiences. I used to just run away, cry and never try to be around that person again, while carrying a grudge. Grudges are not good for anyone, and like this quote below says.. there is something good that can come from everything, if we are willing to put forth the effort to learn from it.
"A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him" ~ David Brinkley
"Strength of character means the ability to overcome resentment against others, to hind hurt feelings, and to forgive quickly." ~ Unknown
"Resentment or grudges do no harm to the person against whom you hold these feelings but every day and every night of your life, they are eating at you." ~ Norman Vincent Peale