Thursday, December 1, 2011

After 30 years I am ….

Can you believe it, after 30 years of being a stay home Mom …I am only days away from being an Empty Nester. How did that ? Most of those 30 years were spent trying to get my kids grounded and well rounded, so that they could be weaned away from us and go out on their own in the world and make a great difference.  Now, Jeff and I are the ones that are trying to wean ourselves from them. This is all new territory and one that we are very unfamiliar with, so that is always a bit scary!

I also started working OUTSIDE OF THE HOME, this year. I have always been  a working Mom, it is just that now I get to wear nice clothes and get a pay check…that is a weird feeling after 30 years!
I am enjoying it but realizing that I am not completely balancing it well yet. How do I know that you ask?  Well…

When I opened up the washer yesterday, I realized I put those clothes in a few days ago and so now they were mildewed ( I completely forgot about them ).

The dishes in the sink were higher than the sink itself.

Cupboards are bare, haven’t shopped for a bit…you can’t even make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich…there isn’t any bread.

I could go on but you probably get the picture. Yes, I am still trying how to figure out to manage the house, groceries and everything else plus working, and I am not even working that many hours! 
Still I feel very grateful to work every day at something I love doing…teaching, quilting and sewing!

So I will try to be patient with myself and truly enjoy these last 29 days that we have before Lee and Lauren leave for college. My heart is aching though, I hope that is normal! I have struggled each time one of our kids have left home, but these are my last two… I don’t have anyone else to Mother. It’s like being laid off your job after 30 years of service, not the end of the world …but a new beginning and something to definitely work into!
Wish me luck.

Good night dear friends. All of you who have already made this job change, feel free to write me and give me some words of wisdom and comfort!

Lauren & Lee

• My mother phones daily to ask, "Did you just try to reach me?" When I reply, "No", she adds, "So, if you're not too busy, call me while I'm still alive," and hangs up.   ~ Erma Bombeck

The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise

Alden Nowlan quotes

Always be nice to your children because they are the ones who will choose your rest home.
Phyllis Diller

1 comment:

Allison said...

I have the same problem and I don't even have kids. It's hard to take care of things at home when you aren't at home a lot of the time.