Tonight Jeff and I went to a Marriage/Relationships class at church. I was dragging my heels going, because it was Friday night... and I could have think of a million other things that I would have liked to be doing! Jeff kept encouraging me to go, and now I am so grateful that he did. First, I was able to see many dear friends that I hadn't seen in awhile, and that was great to catch up with them. Second, many of the things that were mentioned tonight hit home to me. Why are choices so hard at times?
I will mention some of the points that the speaker made tonight. During his presentation, there were a lot of people laughing and shaking their heads, so I do know, we weren't the only couple that struggled at times. Here are a few of my notes...
...each of you, need to bring your best to your marriage
...it is important that you do not bring or carry old stuff ( habits, thought patterns, abuse and etc ) into your marriage. Some of your personal stuff from your past you are going to need to get rid of, or you could ruin your relationship/marriage.
...you need to forgive and let go. Each time you hold onto a hurt or an injustice done to you and you refuse to forget it or forgive the person for it. You essentially are tying an anchor around your leg and throwing yourself overboard. Holding on to past grudges or problems, will sink your marriage.
...we need to remember as Men and Women, we are suppose to be different. We don't think alike, we process things differently, we are not suppose to be the same. We need to understand this and be very patient, and accepting of each other.
...we are headed for tougher times in the future! Is our marriage strong enough for what lies ahead? It is vital that we make it strong now...before we need it. Just like our muscles, we need to strengthen them before we are physically challenged. The time to prepare is before we need it!
...can we try a little harder, give a little more, forgive quicker, be more patient, demand a little less, and listen a little more?
...we need to be more like the Savior in our responses. When we are accused, we need to stop, think about it, and then ask ourselves BEFORE reacting ..."Did I do anything to make them think this of me? Try to see it from the other person's perspective first. Think before we talk.
...if each of us would give a 150%, our marriages would be a lot happier. It is a lot of work, but soooo worth it!
It was a great reminder for us of the choices and things we need to do... to be a better, stronger and happier couple. I am glad I went tonight!
"When you almost obey a commandment, you almost receive a blessing!"
"Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate." ~Barnett R. Brickner
"Life is to be enjoyed, not endured" ~ Gordon B. Hinckley